Sister and MOH

Re: Sister and MOH

• [Deleted User] member

  

  October 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sister-and-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f773389f-d2e1-4e68-be04-7d8bc58c5f45Post:c9e813fd-1362-417b-8e72-a8b1b83db5fc">Sister and MOH</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have one younger sister. Shes 24 and Im 27. She has been talking about me getting married more than myself. She always told me things like "i cant wait til you start trying on dresses..." Or " i cant wait to start shopping for BM dresses" etc. So the time came for me to try on wedding dresses. Both times, she bailed. This weekend I am going to try on my dress because i bought shoes and I want to see if they match if not i have to return them, and to look at veils. So I of course invite my sister bc I have been trying to keep her involved, at least I thought she wanted to be involved since she was so excited, and while Im in the middle of explaining my reason for going back to the boutique she says "do you think they will let me try on dresses or veils?!" Now I told this to my other MOH and she said thats weird and why is she trying to steal your spotlight. She brought up a good point but the thought that came to my head was the bridal store thinking that my sister is wasting their time and I am sure they will think she is trying to steal my spotlight bc what bridesmaid, or MOH goes to the bridal shop to help the bride and is wanting to look for things for themselves too?? Unless your getting married around the same time Im a little annoyed with my sister bc she has not been there for me throughout this entire process. I would never tell her to not be in the wedding but do i keep asking for her help? I mean Im not asking her to come to every little thing, but its only my mom sister and me. My dad died when we were 13 9, so i would have thought that me getting married would bring us closer abd she would have wanted to be there to help pick out a dress. Which was very emotional for me bc its starting to hit me that my Dad wont be there to walk me down the aisle. Should I just let her be and whatever happens happens? There is no talking to her about my feelings bc she is very cold and will blow me off. We dont have the perfect relationship and Ive expressed how she has hurt me in te past an ld she just stares at me and says "are you done?" <strong>Did I make a mistake by making her a MOH?</strong> Does anyone else have a sister like this?
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  </div><div>To the bolded part--it doesn't matter if you made a mistake, because you already asked her, and you can't demote her. So, that is done.</div><div>
  </div><div>My MOH won't even look at dresses until AFTER the deadline set by David's Bridal. Fine with me. If her dress comes, it comes. If not, she'll have to find something else. I'm not really concerned, because she can dress herself. It's not her wedding. She's not excited. She's happy for me. But she's not excited about every little detail. Your sister is probably the same. She doesn't have to be excited about your dress. You do.</div><div>
  </div><div>I'd be a little weirded out, and I'd discourage her from trying on dresses and veils for the reason you said--it's a waste of time. But if she insists, I guess she insists. What can you do, forbid her? She will look weird, not you.
  
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• Cortney1982 member

  

  October 2012

  I highly doubt your sister is trying to steal your spotlight.  She is probably dreaming up the day she gets to try on dresses for her own wedding and wants to have fun.  A little immature for a 24 year old though.  When I worked for a department store that sold special occasion dresses you would not believe the hoard of teen girls that would come in on a daily basis to try on dresses for fun.  They wasted a lot of our time, had no respect for the dresses which usually resulted in a ruined dress (snag, broken zipper or busted seam for trying on dresses two sizes too small)  Anyways what I am saying is that the consultants probably have no patience for play time in expensive dresses and won't indulge your sister.

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• arendiva member

  

  October 2012

  I would heavily discourage her from doing this. Bridal consultants make their money on commission their their time is quite literally their livlihood. Perhaps if you explain this to your sister she'll be less keen on wasting their time.

  

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• Daizy106 member

  

  October 2012

  Im not saying she has to be excited but i thogut she would be considering how excited she was before and after i got engaged. And i would never demote her. Like u saidits done. And when i told her last night that its little weird you want to try on veilsthe bridal store will probably think your wasting their time and she scoffed at me . I dont think shes trying tto steal the spotlight i just dont want the store to feel like im wasting their time and im worried that if i try to discourage shes going to throw a it bc thats what she does and she will think that im telling her not to bc i want the attention. And i know deep down she wants to gdt married but i also know that she knows that her bf is not the right guy for her. He has no job, has cheated on her twice, he has a really bad temper and beyond lazy. And he doesnt want to get married or have kids. So she really would be wasting the stores time bc shes no where near gettin married. I wish she was bc then i wouldnt cAre if she tried on dresses or veils!

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• Daizy106 member

  

  October 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sister-and-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f773389f-d2e1-4e68-be04-7d8bc58c5f45Post:cd087b1e-c14b-4ed3-b9df-4f8a2c6e50ea">Re: Sister and MOH</a>:
  [QUOTE]Also, from your last post about your MsOH,  So WHY would you expect her to be any different about wedding dress shopping?  
  Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
  
  LIke i said, i thought that she would be excited given that she was always telling me how excited she was go shopping but when the day came she ignored my calls and the second time i went to look at dresses she never showed up and ignored my calls for days.

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