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Extra Small Wedding

loriandedwinloriandedwin
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We have both been married before and we want an extra small wedding (our kids only, between 20 and 10) with the older boys being witnesses and having the wedding at his house and going out for supper later.   Is that unfair?  Should we do more?
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Re: Extra Small Wedding

  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    Unfair to who?  Do more for who?  If its what the two of you want- it sounds lovely. ~Donna
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  • loriandedwinloriandedwin
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    edited December 2011
    So to not invite anyone is alright?  I thought maybe we can invite people over after the wedding to tell them.  (We don't live together and won't until June at the earliest)
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  • LindaN21LindaN21 member
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    edited December 2011
    You do not have to invite anyone if you don't want to.  This is about you and your FI and your love.  Do what feels right for both of you!!  Congrats and good luck!!
    Anniversary
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    Have the wedding you want - period.  Celebrate your love and your day your way!

    Congratulations! And welcome!
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  • loriandedwinloriandedwin
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    edited December 2011
    Any suggestions on a dress?  I am a loss for that.  I don't want to do the white wedding dress.  Thought of a red dress (Valentine's Day) then he told me they dance to "The Lady in Red" at his first wedding so kind of kiboshed that idea?
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  • ichellemay1ichellemay1
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_extra-small-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:40159f78-dfa5-4a7c-9b34-8d83ce7c145cPost:ce0bea1f-2153-459b-8bae-917e6bbd2b66">Re: Extra Small Wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]Any suggestions on a dress?  I am a loss for that.  I don't want to do the white wedding dress.  Thought of a red dress (Valentine's Day) then he told me they dance to "The Lady in Red" at his first wedding so kind of kiboshed that idea?
    Posted by loriandedwin[/QUOTE]

    First off - congrats!  I agree with PPs - do what y'all are most comfortable with.  The same really applies for what you wear.   
    Anniversary
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    Lori - You are entitled to have a wonderful, meaningful celebration of the joy of finding love again.  You can sing it from the mountaintops, or whisper it quietly to just each other.  You can wear a poufy, sparkly white gown with an 18 foot train carried by pageboys, or a tee shirt and shorts.  You can throw a bouquet to your maiden or widowed aunt, you can play stripper music as the garter comes off your leg, or you can have a family style sit down dinner at your favorite spaghetti restaurant.  You can send engraved announcements with 14 seperate inclusions or make personal phone calls. 

    My advice is always to have the two of you sit down together and share your vision and dreams of what this celebration will be.  You have to (unfortunately) include a conversation about a reasonable budget (so maybe the page boys are out) as well.  Then plan it and have it -- just the way you want it.  If anyone is judging you, figure out first why it matters to them.  If they are just looking for trouble or to be nasty, that's their issue - not yours.  "I'm sorry you feel that way" is a wonderful answer that doesn't include "...so I'll change it to suit you." 

    If anyone asks why they weren't invited, the line I used (to my aunt, who I love, but who is the queen of judgey) was, "oh...you know, it's a second wedding and all..."  ~Donna
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  • thealphabridethealphabride
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    edited December 2011
    I couldn't have said it better than Donna and the other ladies, Do what makes your heart sing.

    Congratulations and welcome to the board, come here to ask all of your questions, we have an answer for everything!!! ;)
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
    2500 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I think your wedding plans sound wonderful!  Don't forget to hire a professional photographer, though.  You will cherish the memories.
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  • loriandedwinloriandedwin
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    edited December 2011
    Never thought of a photographer, thought with it being small and all that we wouldn't take any pictures.
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    Why wouldn't you take pictures?  It's still a wedding and a celebration of your love and don't you want a picture of the two of you on that day?
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  • loriandedwinloriandedwin
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    edited December 2011
    I guess since it is small and only us and the kids, that no pictures would be a good idea.  I am a photographer and hate to have my picture taken (I Know).  Thought the less expense.
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  • loriandedwinloriandedwin
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    edited December 2011
    Found a really good photographer that only wants $150 say her portfolio and it rocks! Since we only need a handful of photos and we are letting her use our photos on her website and as I am a photographer she is giving us a great deal.
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