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Wedding invites

I'm not even sure if this is the right category to post my question in, but here goes. My husband and I are already married, he's military so we did a civil ceremony last June and will be having a wedding ceremony on our first anniversary. We are stationed in Tennessee but all our friends and family and the wedding is all in Texas, so we will not be having showers etc.. We are working on getting save-the-dates out and am not sure if it would be bad form to put wedding site/registry info on the save the dates and/or wedding invitations. How do we inform our guests of where we're registered without coming off bad?
Thanks!

Re: Wedding invites

  • If you are already married you should call it a Vow Renewal becasue the civil ceremony was the actual wedding.

    as far as registry info dont put it on the invites/save the dates put it on your website and you can add the website info on the invites/std and say more info can be found at  . . ..com. if you dont want to do a website just leave it off and people will either ask or figure it out themselves its pretty easy to google wedding registry info.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_wedding-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:4341cdef-92b6-43ef-9eaf-7ae0b8e32f53Post:c6505904-6fae-48c7-811c-aeb7ca9523b4">Wedding invites</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not even sure if this is the right category to post my question in, but here goes. My husband and I are already married, he's military so we did a civil ceremony last June and will be having a wedding ceremony on our first anniversary. We are stationed in Tennessee but all our friends and family and the wedding is all in Texas, so we will not be having showers etc.. We are working on getting save-the-dates out and am not sure if it would be bad form to put wedding site/registry info on the save the dates and/or wedding invitations. How do we inform our guests of where we're registered without coming off bad? Thanks!
    Posted by erinhernandez90[/QUOTE]

    <div>This is not a wedding, it is a vow renewal.  The wedding was the thing where you got married.</div><div>
    </div><div>A registry is poor form for a vow renewal, but if you must do one, you would follow the same wedding rules, and never mention it unless asked.  It would be rude to put registry info in with a wedding invitation.  If you put it in with a vow renewal, you will confirm suspicions that this fake wedding is nothing but a gift grab.  </div>
  • You never, ever include registry information anywhere, regardless of your circumstances.

    People will probably assume you have a registry and seek it out through google, asking you or your family, or going into stores and looking you up. And if they don't find your registry? So what? They'll get you something else. Or not.

    Though since this is a vow renewal, I'd be surprised if people bought gifts.

    And your invitations should say something about inviting them to a celebration of the marriage of, or a renewal of vows, since you already had your wedding.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Wedding invites : This is not a wedding, it is a vow renewal.  The wedding was the thing where you got married. A registry is poor form for a vow renewal, but if you must do one, you would follow the same wedding rules, and never mention it unless asked.  It would be rude to put registry info in with a wedding invitation.  If you put it in with a vow renewal, you will confirm suspicions that this fake wedding is nothing but a gift grab.  
    Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

    All of this. Plus please make sure all guests are aware they are attending a vow renewal, not a wedding. You can't have a second wedding to the same guy; you are already  married. If you do a registry at all, I would keep it small and simple and only pass it along via word of mouth if asked.
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