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4 parishes... does this make sense?

COSmittyCOSmitty
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So far it's getting up to 3 or 4 priests we are going to be dealing with....

Just venting a little b/c it seems like I'm dealing with a federal project's amount of red tape this week.  So here's the deal- We are getting married at a chapel in my home diosoce by the priest from my home parish and we are doing preparation in one of the cities we live in. 

So to make it more interesting the chapel is administered by a different  parish than my home parish. So... right now it's 2 priests in the city we are getting married in. Also we aren't technically registered in any parish (I parish hop depending on my mood right now since the one I like is near his house not mine). So there is the one we go to usually and the one he grew up in and attended always till he met me. He just never bothered registering as an adult since he always went to the same church.

So I'm leaning towards prep at his growing up parish, make sure to meet the host parish regulations and be married by my home parish priest.... and then register at the parish I like after we get married. Does that make sense?
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Re: 4 parishes... does this make sense?

  • monkeysipmonkeysip member
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    edited December 2011
    Well... I'm assuming you have a good reason to marry at this chapel in the other city, and a good reason to not use the priest of that chapel, but one from your home parish in this other city (and by home parish, you don't mean one you're registered at, but one that you grew up in or something?).  If you got good reasons for this, or it's what you have to do for some reason, then I don't see it as a big deal.  Sucks that you have the extra red-tape, but a lot of people have to work with 2 or 3 priests or parishes for their weddings, so it'll be ok.

    As for the fourth, you have some time to figure that out.  Maybe wait until you move in with your future husband and you both can figure out which parish you'd like to attend regularly.  Or if you really like a parish now, talk to FI and see if you both want to do prep there and register now.  Either way, try and make the decision together, and don't worry too much! :)

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  • COSmittyCOSmitty
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    edited December 2011
    Ah- the chapel is from my high school.... there technically are no priests so it's just administered by another parish that I've never been to. The priest we want to use has done all the major family events for the last 10 years and we've had over for holiday dinners. I'd rather be married by someone I know and who is a good friend of my mom's.

    And yes, home parish is the one I grew up in and was at as an adult prior to moving a couple of years ago. 

    I think in the middle of trying to juggle everything it was just perplexing me which order to go in. Glad to know I'm not the only one dealing with the priest shuffle.
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  • doctabroccolidoctabroccoli member
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    edited December 2011
    I think........ I have a headache from trying to make sense of this, lol.

    We got married at my parents' parish (my former parish) in St. Louis, but we did a diocesan pre-cana program here in Cleveland.  I'm sure there are diocesan programs where you live so that you're not dealing with another parish that you're not a member of.

    And, when this is all said and done, join the parish that speaks to you the most spiritually :).

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  • prettyirishgirlprettyirishgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I understand your frustration. I'm dealing with a similar thing minus a loop. I am also having our ceremony at my hometown school -nursery through high school. but it is also administered by another parish that I've never done anything with. I'd just filter thought it all headache or not. I am also not currently registered at my home parish becausee i moved for a few years. So i'm getting back into that, possibly getting a priest form when I was younger that is a family friend which has since been reassigned  and playing musical chairs. It will all work out fine just stick to your guns :)
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  • COSmittyCOSmitty
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks girls- it was just stressing me out for some odd reason. I think I'm going to try delegating dealing with the local church to FI since it's his parish and maybe that will free me up to deal with other things :-)

    We'll figure out which church we join after the wedding.

    One thing at a time is much easier!
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