As you can see from an earlier post, I have purchased my dress and the bm has ordred hers. The moh, however hasn't.
The dress for the girls is not my original choice. The moh, after giving me her budget limit ($150.00), complained about the cost of the dress, despite it being in her budget because MY dress was so inexpensive bc it went on clearance. I would have paid a lot more for that dress, it just happened to be on clearance when I showed the picture to Jason's mom, so she ordered it. The original bridesmaid dress was $99. The moh said she thought it was completely unfair to expect her to pay that much for her dress when mine was so much less. My bm didn't have a problem with the original dress and said she was so happy she'd show up in burlap if that's what I wanted her to wear. Needless to say, despite being very aggravated, I did look around and found the current bridesmaid dress, which also happened to be on clearance, for $30...$43 with tax and shipping. Well, now she says she can't afford that and wants me to order it for her and she will pay me when she sees me next.
I'm very hesitant to do this for a number of reasons. When she was last here (she lives a couple hours away and only comes to town every couple months), she complained about the flower color, complained inccesantly about how damn hot it was everytime we got out of the car, complained more about the heat when Jason's mom and I were showering her our plans in the backyard, complained about everything she could it seemed, not fond of my dress (frankly, idc that she doesnt like MY dress...it's MY wedding!). I kind of got the feeling she wasn't really interested in being int he wedding. When I asked her if she still wanted to be in the wedding, she said of course she does and she wouldn't miss it for anything.
Well, now we have this new issue with the dress and I'm hesitant to order it for her. I'm afraid I'd order it, it get here, and then at some point she says she's no longer interested in being in the wedding, leaving me with a bm dress. I'm totally fine with having just my one attendant so I wouldn't be THAT tore up over it, and in fact I could make my 14yo daughter a bm...plus there are a few gals who want to be a bm but because of budget constraints I am only having the 2. No one would feel like a second choice, as we are all older and understand the budget. If I could I would have EVERYONE that wants to, be in the wedding.
Anyway, I'm trying to decide...do I order the dress and hope she stays in the wedding?
Seems that even thought this isn't my first wedding (or Jason's), some of the same old issues are arising since the last one. Thankfully, everything has been pretty stress free and I won't stress over this, but I do think I need to figure out what to do about it.