Wedding shower across the country

KimbyK · June 2012

My mom is throwing me a wedding shower - however, I live in Ohio, and she lives in Arizona. How do I register for gifts? Especially knowing that I would have to ship gifts back to Ohio.

Would it be tacky in this situation to ask for gift cards?

racholas · June 2012

If you want the shower, just register at a store that's in both places (e.g BBB or WS), open the gifts, return everything for credit, and rebuy everything when you get home (or buy what you actually want). This way, everyone is happy and you don't have to haul gifts across the country.

When asked how you'll get it home, just say you brought an extra suit case

JoanE2012 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_wedding-shower-across-the-country?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:9aa6f888-275d-4950-b699-3ec9b7b7cd59Post:bd0caa03-311f-414c-aff2-3dfd464e0ec2">Re: Wedding shower across the country</a>:
[QUOTE]If you want the shower, just register at a store that's in both places (e.g BBB or WS), open the gifts, return everything for credit, and rebuy everything when you get home (or buy what you actually want). This way, everyone is happy and you don't have to haul gifts across the country. When asked how you'll get it home, just say you brought an extra suit case :)
Posted by racholas[/QUOTE]

This is ridiculous.

OP - If it's too much of a bother to ship the items, pass on the shower.

egm900 · June 2012

Or register for small-ish items that are travel friendly. I live across the country from my family, so I do this every Christmas- you'd be surprised at what fits in a large suitcase that can be checked for $25. Sometimes my mom has to store a few items that won't fit, but I get them on my next trip or she brings them when she comes to see me.

Avion22 · June 2012

Also, those flat-rate boxes at the post-office are awesome. We fit all of our flatware, napkins, placemats, and a tablecloth in one of the medium sized boxes (which I think costs $10 to ship, regardless of weight?)

racholas · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_wedding-shower-across-the-country?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9aa6f888-275d-4950-b699-3ec9b7b7cd59Post:e39384f0-7e5d-4a52-9ef6-c52390f431c8">Re: Wedding shower across the country</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding shower across the country : <strong>This is ridiculous.</strong> OP - If it's too much of a bother to ship the items, pass on the shower.
Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

Perhaps. But I returned $1300 worth of items and then repurchased / purchased $1450 worth of items that were most important with my completion discount with the original $1300 in store credit. And, since I have the W-S credit card which comes with a year of free shipping, except for the original return, I didn't do extra hauling.

kmmssg · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_wedding-shower-across-the-country?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9aa6f888-275d-4950-b699-3ec9b7b7cd59Post:bd0caa03-311f-414c-aff2-3dfd464e0ec2">Re: Wedding shower across the country</a>:
[QUOTE]If you want the shower, just register at a store that's in both places (e.g BBB or WS), open the gifts, return everything for credit, and rebuy everything when you get home (or buy what you actually want). This way, everyone is happy and you don't have to haul gifts across the country. When asked how you'll get it home, just say you brought an extra suit case :)
Posted by racholas[/QUOTE]

<div>OK this is why return policies get tighter and tighter - because of bull like this. OP, do NOT do this.</div><div>
</div><div>My DD came from UT to MI for her shower. She knew if she accepted the shower she accepted the responsibility of getting her gifts back to UT. She knew it would be rude to ask for gift cards. Please don't do that. If you accept the shower, you accept the responsibility of getting your gifts home.</div>

laurenoliveira23 · June 2012

are you planning on opening the gifts at a shower? cause when i registered i got to put what i want my pickup store to be so i guess some people will just have me pick up the gifts? i wasnt sure how that worked and was kind of dissapointed cause i love opening presents :P but ya you should ask about that

otherwise idont think it will be that big of a deal to ship them ... bring an extra suitcase and then ship what doesnt fit

jls522 · June 2012

We had a shower in IL for my sister who lives in CA. In the invitation we asked guests to send gifts to her MIL's address in CA, but to bring a picture of the gift so she'd have something to open. Everyone understood that she wouldn't be able to transport all the gifts and it worked really well. My mom bought her and her husband a big suitcase as part of her gift so she could take back gifts from anyone who didn't follow instructions

MobKaz · June 2012

Requesting gift cards is not appropriate. Opening nothing but envelopes at a shower is boring for guests and defeats the purpose of the shower. Most of your invited guests are probably aware of your situation. We had a similar situation. Some guests chose to order a gift and have it shipped directly to the bride's home. For the shower they wrapped up a picture of the gift for the bride to open. Other guests bought a small gift, and paired it with a gift card. The gift might have been a ladle. Inside the card, the note might read, "We hope you use the enclosed gift card to purchase the crock pot seen on your registry". Obviously, the bride is under no obligation to buy that gift. But it allowed the bride to have a little something to open, but also made It easier for the bride to travel home with her gifts.

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