Community› Cultural Wedding Boards› African American Weddings
African American Weddings
New Discussion

Question of the Day

TysWife2BeTysWife2Be member
2500 Comments Third Anniversary
in African American Weddings
Are You Waiting?
AAW June 2011 Siggy Challenge : "Daddy and Me"

Photobucket

Wedding Planning Blog (Updated 10/18/10)

Report Reply to Post

Re: Question of the Day

  • sweets18sweets18
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We are waiting.... And the wedding is in three days so I am a little nervous...lol... tips and advice welcome!!!


    Anniversary BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • BrideBling82BrideBling82 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Sweets18 I'm with you.....but my wedding is in 31 days!!! OMG.....at this point I'm not nervous just tired with all the extra stuff I need to do. The important stuff prior to the wedding night stuff lol!
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • FabbiegirlFabbiegirl member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Hell Naw!!!!Foot in mouth
    Report Reply
  • bmoton82bmoton82 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We are "breaking" for the next 87 days. 
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • FabbiegirlFabbiegirl member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Ok, to give more explanation to my knee jerk answer, we discussed it, but no, we are not waiting. 

    We actually made vows to each other in the beginning of our relationship,so  we feel like we have established "us" already.  The marriage ceremony is our step in building our family.  It is actually true too because during heated arguments we both said that if the other was just a GF or BF, we would end the relationship, but the commitment keeps us; therefore, we feel like we are married now.  

    Plus we don't prescribe to religions that say to wait, so we don't feel like we are committing any type of sins.
    Report Reply
  • Soon2BSandSoon2BSand
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    We are trying to... being long distance helps. 
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    130 image Are on the way! The rest don't matter... FINAL COUNT~!
    Report Reply
  • lil01lil01
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011

    We didn't wait at all. We've been living together for 8 yrs & already living in sin. No point for us...lol!!

    Image and video hosting by TinyPic Daisypath Anniversary tickers
    Report Reply
  • vfridayvfriday
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    DH cut me off the last 30 days before the wedding.  There was so much going on I didn't miss it until everything was over.  It made for a very romantic honeymoon.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Soon2BSandSoon2BSand
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_question-of-day-102?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:9de68f87-295e-469e-a036-6c86aceb7383Post:7abaf121-6439-471b-b8de-510fb618ea17">Re: Question of the Day</a>:
    [QUOTE]We didn't wait at all. We've been living together for 8 yrs & already living in sin. No point for us...lol!!
    Posted by lil01[/QUOTE]

    <div>Who? You and your FI? *giggle*</div>
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    130 image Are on the way! The rest don't matter... FINAL COUNT~!
    Report Reply
  • lil01lil01
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_question-of-day-102?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:9de68f87-295e-469e-a036-6c86aceb7383Post:c6af1315-1e6c-44af-bf17-70b0708cae20">Re: Question of the Day</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question of the Day : Who? You and your FI? *giggle*
    Posted by Soon2BSand[/QUOTE]

    Girl yeah!!! LOL. Me & the hubby!! I'm really getting used to saying HUSBAND now.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic Daisypath Anniversary tickers
    Report Reply
  • island07b2bisland07b2b member
    Knottie Warrior 2500 Comments 100 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    We discussed "halting" 60 days out from the wedding.  The FH isn't feeling 60 days at all.  LOL!  I think that may go down to 45 but definitely no later than 30.  To be honest, I am ok with cutting it out 90 days out so I can GO BUCK WILD on the HM.  LOL!



    Love is the ultimate superpower.   
    It can make you weak and strong simultaneously.  



    Report Reply
  • Carla1019Carla1019
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    To the ladies feeling bad about living in sin here is how I look at it biblically.

    Issac took Rebeccas into his mother's tent shortly after meeting her and they laid down and were "married".

    Others would announce publicly that they were taking a bride from her home into the grooms home and they were married. Genesis 24:67. They didn't have marraige licenses and ties to the state.

    I say all this to mean that if a man asked you to be his wife and you said yes, how is that any different than what they did many many years ago??

    I believe "spiritually" that I am not doing anything wrong when making love to the man I have vowed to spend my life with before God. We did this when he put the ring on my finger. Everything else here on out is just paperwork.

    To answer the question, heck no I'm not waiting. I need the stress reliever.
    Wedding date July 7, 2012
    Report Reply
  • empeguesempegues member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_question-of-day-102?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:9de68f87-295e-469e-a036-6c86aceb7383Post:79e8beec-426b-432b-9f63-844760c16b6b">Re: Question of the Day</a>:
    [QUOTE]To the ladies feeling bad about living in sin here is how I look at it biblically. Issac took Rebeccas into his mother's tent shortly after meeting her and they laid down and were "married". Others would announce publicly that they were taking a bride from her home into the grooms home and they were married. Genesis 24:67. They didn't have marraige licenses and ties to the state. I say all this to mean that if a man asked you to be his wife and you said yes, how is that any different than what they did many many years ago?? I believe "spiritually" that I am not doing anything wrong when making love to the man I have vowed to spend my life with before God. We did this when he put the ring on my finger. Everything else here on out is just paperwork. To answer the question, heck no I'm not waiting. I need the stress reliever.
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

    *THIS*
    Report Reply
  • bcbsbridebcbsbride
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    FI is not with waiting. Each time I bring it up he says you're going to have to do something because I feel like I'm married to you already.So, I'm going to try to make him wait at least 30 days prior to.
    Anniversary
    Report Reply
  • ejagersejagers
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Yes and have been for 2 years 4 months to the day!  But who's counting, right? LOL.  FI is really pushing to keep it going since we learned why in marriage counseling.  And I really admire him for it.  But it is soooooo hard at times.  But hey, we waited this long so why not keep it going.  FI thinks it's a test to his manhood and he doesn't wanna give up/ quit in the middle. 
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • busybruckbusybruck
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I thought about it, but we haven't even really had the chance lately. FI is now working at night, so our sleep patterns are opposite, and our time together lately has been running around doing wedding or family stuff, birthdays, graduations, parties. Don't know if it worth making it a rule. I think the wedding night will be great because we will both be able to relax. But FI said if I want to he would do it for me, but could he just have one time before he gets cut off.
    Anniversary
    Report Reply
  • kwillia139kwillia139
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    No maam we are not! When first got together I made him wait 4 months, but now especially since we live together so for the FI I can't even bring it up lol. He feels that we are already one.
    April Siggy Challenge: E-Ring
    Photobucket
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • JKeyes2011JKeyes2011
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We had decided that we would wait. It helps that we are currently in 2 different countries. It will be quite a test in the week of the wedding because the wedding is on the 9th and my FI gets here on the 3rd. We will be staying together in my bedroom for that week. I might make him sleep on a blow-up mattress on the floor to keep him at a distance lol.
    Photobucket
    "Ever Thine, Ever Mine, Ever Ours"
    Janae & Olivier


    Anniversary
    Report Reply
  • chescamchescam member
    Sixth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Yes, we're waiting.
    image
    Wedding Countdown Ticker Follow Me on Pinterest
    Report Reply
  • LSASLSAS member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_question-of-day-102?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:9de68f87-295e-469e-a036-6c86aceb7383Post:79e8beec-426b-432b-9f63-844760c16b6b">Re: Question of the Day</a>:
    [QUOTE]To the ladies feeling bad about living in sin here is how I look at it biblically. Issac took Rebeccas into his mother's tent shortly after meeting her and they laid down and were "married". Others would announce publicly that they were taking a bride from her home into the grooms home and they were married. Genesis 24:67. They didn't have marraige licenses and ties to the state. I say all this to mean that if a man asked you to be his wife and you said yes, how is that any different than what they did many many years ago?? I believe "spiritually" that I am not doing anything wrong when making love to the man I have vowed to spend my life with before God. We did this when he put the ring on my finger. Everything else here on out is just paperwork. To answer the question, heck no I'm not waiting. I need the stress reliever.
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

    All of this!!!!!
    Anniversary
    Report Reply
  • PrettyCW5PrettyCW5
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Yes, we're waiting :)
    Wedding Countdown Ticker Follow Me on Pinterest Pretty Sweet Bio
    Report Reply
  • MrsAllenToBe1123MrsAllenToBe1123
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    About 7 years and 1 child too late..lol but I may hold out for a week or 2 just for fun
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards