Ok sorry if this turns into a rant, but my mother is driving me nuts! It started the moment my FI propsed to me. After I said yes I called her to tell her the good news. All she has to say are a list of her demands. "You're going to live at home until you get married and not move in with him," and "You're going to have a long engagement" were my two favs, but there were more. We went to the theater that night, too, and during intermission she called with more demands. It ended when I told her I had just gotten engaged and to let me enjoy my moment.
Well it's gotten worse from there. She asked if it was okay for her to not go with my color scheme of lavender and light blue, and instead wear a navy dress. I didn't fight her on it. She's been inviting herself to do wedding stuff with my FI and future sister-in-law (who is a wedding planner and a life saver). When I confront her on it she acts like a child and hangs up on me. She's even telling my future sister-in-law she doesn't know what she is doing!
The final straw is my dress. It's a lovely dress. I've been on medication most of my life and, because my FI and I want kids and I need to be off the meds for a few months before we can start trying, I stopped taking them. Because of that I gained a few inches on my chest and 20 pounds. I've been underweight my whole life so I really didn't care about the weight gain. However because of the inches I've gained my dress doesn't fit. I originally wanted a corset backing so I decided to take the zipper off my dress and put on the corset back. My mother did not like this. She says it will take my dress from elegant to classy. All my friends and future in-laws say it will look lovely. My second fitting was yesterday to determine where to pin the back. I tried talking to her about it, telling her it was what I wanted and how stunning I'll look on my big day. She then tells me nothing will change her mind and the corset back will take away from the dress, how I should have gone off my meds after the wedding and such.
It doesn't matter I've lost an inch since my first fitting. The dress fit me perfectly before and now it has to be changed and SHE doesn't like it. I'm at my wits end with her.
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Your dress fix sounds awesome.
I am super comfortable with how I look now and how I looked 20 pounds lighter. No one can tell I've gained weight since most of it resulted in the inches on my chest. My FI is totally supportive of how I look.
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One question though - what is with "will take my dress from elegant to classy"? What does that even mean?! I think elegant is classy and classy is elegant, isn't it? I may be wrong, but I can't figure that one out! I am sure you will be a knockout in your dress, whether it's elegant or classy!!
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[QUOTE]One question though - what is with "will take my dress from elegant to classy"? What does that even mean?! I think elegant is classy and classy is elegant, isn't it? I may be wrong, but I can't figure that one out! I am sure you will be a knockout in your dress, whether it's elegant or classy!!
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I posted a picture of me in my dress on the thread "We Said Yes to the Dress" so you can see what it looks like there. The "elegant to classy" is a direct quote from her. I always thought they meant the same thing too. I think she means it will take something away from the dress. I personally think it'll add to it. She's just set in her ways.
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I just feel that as long as your relationship is good, it might help. Maybe she's actually stressed/upset about something else and that will come out when you talk. Or maybe she doesn't realize how much her comments are bugging you.
We've always been close, but since I've moved out/become engaged...she's put up a wall and become all grouchy and stuff. I honestly don't even recall the last time I've talked to her....
She insisted when I ordered invites 6 months ago that all of the RSVPs be sent to her house, so I have no idea who said yes/no/who still needs to RSVP. Not sure when I'll get those from her!
She is mostly mad about our guest list and feels that she got jipped or something. I've attempted to explain it nicely to her but she won't even let me start without going on a rant about how she is paying for all these people she doesn't even know.
Uuuuuuugh.
Some days I wish we would have politely declined her financial offer so we wouldn't have her on our back!
I highly doubt I will talk to her until the day-of. We are just avoiding each other that much.