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LisaB26541LisaB26541 member
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I'm hoping maybe someone can help me out with a little scenario I have going on.  A little background:  My parents divorced when I was in college.  My Mom remarried about 2 years ago, when I was 26.  My Dad has not remarried.   Fast forward to today when we are working on wedding programs.  I have put a lot of thought into how to word the "Parents" section of the program, to try to respect everyone, but also truly represent my relationship with each person.  I came up with the following:   Mother of the Bride- Mrs. Sally Smith, escorted by Mr. Joe Smith.  Father of the Bride- Mr. Rick Jones.  I thought this would be a nice way to at least mention my Mom's new husband, without giving a "step-parent" title, since he played no role in rasing me of course.  My Mom was very upset with this and wants the program to read- Mother and Step-Father of the Bride- Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith.   
I have also thought about a compromise of maybe : Mother of the bride- Mrs. Sally Smith, escorted by step-father of the bride, Mr. Joe Smith. 

I truly do not want to hurt anyone's feelings.  I am just trying to recognize that a wedding is about family as well, and I feel like putting him in as a step-father, when he never had that role, is being disrespectful to my Dad. 

Any thoughts?
If I am way off-base here, please tell me.  I know that I have a tendency to over-think things sometimes and read too much into things.  Thanks ladies.  
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Re: Program wording

  • Muffin'sMomMuffin'sMom
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Have you asked your mom's husband what HE thinks?  He may be fine with your decision and be willing to talk your mom off the ledge.  You might ask your dad if it would bother him to have this guy called stepfather.
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  • vicki0508vicki0508 member
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    edited December 2011
    Marrying your mother makes him your step-father, whether or not he played a fatherly role in your life.  You don't bestow that title upon him, he automatically gets it. 

    FI's parents are divorced, his mom is remarried, his dad is not, and our programs say:
    Parents of the Groom
    Jane and John Doe
    James Smith

    That's a lot less wordy than saying "mother of the groom, escorted by step-father of the groom."
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  • graffeograffeo
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    edited December 2011
    I would ask your step dad. H and i did the same thing u did to start with. My step mom and H step dad were around while we were growin up. We just did it bc it sounded nice. Step parent sometimes gets ugly sounding. I think i said Father of the Bride escorted  by his wife. It was either escorted or accompamned. I also talked to my step mom and explaned how i did not want to forget about my mom since she passed away. Talk to your step dad and mom . Tell them what your comfortable with
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  • regfalangeregfalange
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    edited December 2011
    All you gotta say is Mother of the Bride Suzie Smith and her husband Joe Smith
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