Not sure what to do/say?

whitnicole2003 · December 2011

His mom wants him to walk her down the isle, I have never seen a wedding where the groom walks down the isle and I think it would be weird. But I don't want to hurt her feelings. And she wants his aunt to be escorted down the isle too along with the parents and grandparents. The reasoning behind it is because she never got married nor has children who will be married. I'm not sure what I should do or say. Is it selfish for me to not want that?

MairePoppy · December 2011

I have been to many wedding where the groom was escorted by the mom or both parents. I have also seen grandparents escorted down the aisle before the procession. I have never seen aunts or uncles in the procession, but don't see anything wrong with it, IF that's what the bride and groom want. Did you ask your fi what he wants?

redheadfsu · December 2011

Usually the parents and grandparents (both sides) do walk down the aisle. The aunt is not that normal, but is she very close to your FI?

Simply Fated · December 2011

Forget what's "normal" because, really, that isn't as important as what you and your FI wants, in this case. What does your FI think about this?

NOLAbridealmost · December 2011

Grandparents are usually either escorted down the aisle or escort each other (spouses) down the aisle just before the mother of the bride is escorted. After the MOB the music usually changes and then the wedding party enters culminating with the bride and her father. These things can be tweaked for different preferences and family situations. I don't see a big deal in escorting his aunt when his grandparents enter if she's very close to them and it means a lot to your FI's family.

At my own wedding, H and his parents went down the aisle together right after the grandparents were seated. Then my mom was seated last (MOB being seated usually signifies that the wedding processional is about the begin).

Do what you and your FI want.

redheadfsu · December 2011

OP, I just wanted to clarify, by normal I just meant im not familar with the tradition of having more than just parents and grandparents( in large families having aunts and uncles would make it a lot of people). But that of course it can be done, I would just talk to your FI and see what he thinks. Plus, could including only this one aunt hurt the other aunts and uncles feelings?

J&K10910 · December 2011

My H escorted both his mom and my mom down the aisle, but it was before everything started really, so it wasn't a big to-do. No one escorted my grandma, she just sat herself down in the front row.

mandi921vh · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_not-sure-dosay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:14ec4f7e-2359-49e5-99e0-14c39ca83183Post:e5c9c087-525a-4170-9e7a-43fd9a4206f4">Re: Not sure what to do/say?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have been to many wedding where the groom was escorted by the mom or both parents. I have also seen grandparents escorted down the aisle before the procession. I have never seen aunts or uncles in the procession, but don't see anything wrong with it, IF that's what the bride and groom want. Did you ask your fi what he wants?
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with this. OP, there are many ways to do this, choose what fits best for you and your FI.</div>

becky659 · December 2011

If it's important to her and your FI, I don't see a problem with it. It might be a little unusual to some people, but it would be worth it to give her that special moment with her son. It's more normal for important family members to get a walk down the isle.

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