Need some advice! Does anyone have an objective opinion? I met my fiance through one of his sister's. We still hang out and talk all the time. SO I asked her to me my Matron of Honor. (My sister is my Maid of Honor, my daughter is one of my bridesmaids as well as a good friend of mine.) My Fiance asked his grromsmen and one of them is his brother. Now the older sister, with whom I don't hang around with (we only get together on holidays) is extremely upset because she wasn't asked.
I never even imagined she would want to be involved! When we were first planning we were talking about going away and we went to the older sister and her husband to ask if they would come and they immediately both said 'no thanks, have fun but we won't be there.'
I'm not sure what part of that conversation was supposed to make me think she wanted to be a bridesmaid?!
I called to talk to her so there were no hard feelings. I tried to explain to her why the people I chose were chosen but all I got was 'I don;t know if I even would have done it if I was asked.' and 'I don't want to hear it or talk about it.'
Now what should I do?? I don't think I should ask her just because she's upset. Now giving her a spot somewhere would almost be compensating, and I think she'd say no now anyway. I'm not really in for asking people who I know are going to say no...kind of dumb on my part wouldn't it be?!