Envelopes?

Re: Envelopes?

• jagore08 member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_envelopes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:027f21e8-6604-40d9-9b44-1ee82aa2982aPost:7002c438-89ce-4c52-8b35-fedf0e53a485">Envelopes?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hi ladies! The FI and I are thinking that instead of doing a registry to just as for envelopes. We are going to be moving cross country and do not want to carry alot of gifts with us and would really use the money more. If i register for things now, I might not need them once we move. <strong>Is it rude? Would people understand?</strong>
  Posted by ooohmariia[/QUOTE]
  Is it rude? Yes.  Will people understand? People understand that guests would like cash.  There's no need to ask for it.  Make a small registry so you don't end up with random gifts and people will get the hint.<div>
  </div><div>I suggest lurking on the boards to get some ideas of registry items and peoples attitudes on asking for money.  The boards are very helpful but you are probably not going to get the "kindest" of responses because this question is asked so frequently.</div>

  Ignorance is a poor defense.

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• Avion22 member

  

  June 2012

  I have never heard the term "asking for envelopes" before.  If I saw this somewhere, I would probably bring a card (with no money), not realising that by "envelopes" you mean "money."

  
  

  Gifts and registries should never be mentioned.   You can have a registry listed on your website, or your friends/family can help spread the word that you are registered at "X" or say something like "The couple is moving after the wedding, and they are saving up for items for their new home."

  
  

  Also?   Moving new towles is no more difficult than moving your old towels.  Register for stuff that you want to upgrade or replace (sheets, towels, plates, etc) -- then donate your used items to charity.   

  

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• hoffse member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_envelopes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:027f21e8-6604-40d9-9b44-1ee82aa2982aPost:eb6162bf-8584-4e64-a5e3-48eb9b061256">Re: Envelopes?</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>I have never heard the term "asking for envelopes" before.</strong>  If I saw this somewhere, I would probably bring a card (with no money), not realising that by "envelopes" you mean "money." Gifts and registries should never be mentioned.   You can have a registry listed on your website, or your friends/family can help spread the word that you are registered at "X" or say something like "The couple is moving after the wedding, and they are saving up for items for their new home." Also?   <strong>Moving new towles is no more difficult than moving your old towels.  Register for stuff that you want to upgrade or replace (sheets, towels, plates, etc) -- then donate your used items to charity. </strong>  
  Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Both of these.  OP, if you prefer cash, make a small registry of upgrades in a few different price points.  Some people (like me) don't give cash ever.  But I would buy you towels or something off of your registry if it was listed.  You WILL need towels, sheets, bedding, dishes, etc. and if you aren't moving until after, this is a good time to upgrade a few things or make sure that stuff matches.  I would especially recommend registering for soft things, because then you can use the old versions as padding between furniture or other delicate items.</div>

  

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• AdeleDazeem member

  

  June 2012

  What does "ask for envelopes" mean?  Would you write somewhere "The bride and groom are asking for envelopes in lieu of gifts" or would you send an envelope with the invitation?  I guess it doesn't matter because whatever it actually means it's rude as hell, but I kinda wanted to understand the logistics.
  
  We have a teeny apartment and I didn't want more stuff in it.  We made a super small registry of ~ 20 things.  We got a few presents but mostly we got cash.  If you register small, people will get the hint.  There's no need to whack them over the head with "GIMME CASSSSHHHH!!!!!" because that's just never acceptable.

  
  

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• MNVegas member

  

  June 2012

  Yes, what you want to do is rude.

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• mbrischoux member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_envelopes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:027f21e8-6604-40d9-9b44-1ee82aa2982aPost:7162f49f-4bb1-4f80-b5c1-d00be8fef375">Re: Envelopes?</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Envelopes? : Both of these.  OP, if you prefer cash, make a small registry of upgrades in a few different price points.  Some people (like me) don't give cash ever.  But I would buy you towels or something off of your registry if it was listed.  You WILL need towels, sheets, bedding, dishes, etc. and if you aren't moving until after, this is a good time to upgrade a few things or make sure that stuff matches.  I would especially recommend registering for soft things, because then you can use the old versions as padding between furniture or other delicate items.
  Posted by hoffse[/QUOTE]
  
  I agree, donate your old stuff and register for new stuff.  Asking for envelopes is remarkably rude and will get you side-eyed big time.

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• mbrischoux member

  

  June 2012

  I kinda just got a vision in my head of that part in "A Charlie Brown Christmas" where Sally asks Charlie Brown to write her letter to Santa, telling Santa to make it easy on himself and just bring 10's and 20's.

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• MJ4205

  

  June 2012

  It is a custom in Asian cultures. I have attended wedding where someone walks around with a basket asking for the envelopes. But if you are not used to it...then yes i guess its rude.

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