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Exiting the ceremony

Epiphany1031Epiphany1031
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I posted this also on the Ceremony Ideas board but thought I'd also ask my fellow April brides. :)

We are having a backyard wedding at my fiance's parent's house. My future FIL has been working so hard to landscape the perfect path to exit the ceremony location after we get married. He was doing this a surprise for us! :)
Only thing is.. it isn't down the aisle. We would be exiting as husband and wife directly to the left of the altar.
Is this going to be weird? I have never seen it done this way (usually the WP and bride & groom walk back down the aisle). My future FIL most likely wasn't aware of this so he went ahead and labored to make us a path right to the left.
We are super grateful for everything that he has done for us and we of course aren't going to tell him anything, we will be exiting to the left on the path that he has made. We certainly don't want to hurt his feelings and we are so LUCKY and THANKFUL for everything he has done for us (he also landscaped our ceremony site and reception site).
Please tell me this won't be too weird.. lol. I could be overthinking it (lately with the wedding coming up so close, I seem to be overthinking A LOT, lol)
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    Ok so wait, I'm confused:

    Do you want to exit down the aisle, and he has made a path to the left?

    Or did he make the path for down the aisle, and you want to exit to the left?
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  • Epiphany1031Epiphany1031
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    I apologize if I was not clear...

    I had envisioned us walking down the aisle after we get married. (usually, that's how it's done, right? The bride and groom walk back down the aisle followed by the wedding party after the ceremony). Therefore, that is what I had originally wanted.

    My future FIL wasn't aware of this so he went ahead and labored to make us a path right to the left of the altar. I have never been to a wedding that was done this way (usually the bride and groom walk back down the aisle, followed by the wedding party). That is why I feel like it may be weird for us to just exit on the left.

    I just posted this on the board because I am worried it will be very strange for us to be leaving the ceremony without walking back down the aisle. I am asking if it really will be odd, or am I overthinking it?

    Hope this makes sense.. :)  
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  • blgroutblgrout
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    So, are you entering by walking down the aisle?  That's the part I don't get.  If you're walking down the aisle to walk to the altar area, then why did he build a special path to the left for you to leave on?  That's the part I don't get but maybe I'm being dumb.

    FWIW, one of my girlfriends exited to the left after ceremony, which was a garden ceremony.  She walked down the aisle to the altar, and then her and H went to the left and walked out of the ceremony/garden area and got into their waiting horse and carriage.  That wasn't weird, but then her WP walked down the aisle to exit, and that was kind of weird that they didn't follow the bride and groom, but only a little bit. 

    If he made the path especially for you, I'd use it :)

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  • Epiphany1031Epiphany1031
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    edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_exiting-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:15b3b51b-f6e4-4d9e-ad95-c50bd10bf864Post:177a7fda-23a0-4ecf-a94f-6db2fe83011e">Re: Exiting the ceremony</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>So, are you entering by walking down the aisle?  That's the part I don't get.  If you're walking down the aisle to walk to the altar area, then why did he build a special path to the left for you to leave on?</strong>  That's the part I don't get but maybe I'm being dumb. FWIW, one of my girlfriends exited to the left after ceremony, which was a garden ceremony.  She walked down the aisle to the altar, and then her and H went to the left and walked out of the ceremony/garden area and got into their waiting horse and carriage.  That wasn't weird, but then her WP walked down the aisle to exit, and that was kind of weird that they didn't follow the bride and groom, but only a little bit.  If he made the path especially for you, I'd use it :)
    Posted by blgrout[/QUOTE]

    I am sooooo sorry this is so confusing. It's hard to write it all down, wish I could just talk and explain, lol!! :)

    I am walking down the aisle towards my groom at the start of our ceremony I will be going down the middle of an aisle, the traditional way, meeting him at the end with our officiant. What I am referring to is for AFTER the ceremony.
    My FFIL built a path for EXITING the ceremony. I am not certain why he did it that way, we didn't ask for that but he planned it for us as a surprise. Maybe he thought that's the way it should be?

    The garden ceremony you just explained sounds gorgeous and I'm glad that you said it didn't look odd, that makes me feel so much better. We'll be doing the same thing except no horse and carriage. I'll keep in mind to have the wedding party follow us that way too. :)

    For all the others, I'm so sorry if this post is confusing. I didn't mean to confuse anyone., just wanted some brides' opinions. I felt like it might be odd to leave the ceremony without walking back down the aisle. Probably just too hard to explain on the internet. :)
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  • chickenbut143chickenbut143 member
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    It doesn't sound odd at all (to me).  Just b/c you enter one way doesn't mean you have to exit the same way.  With all the work he put into it, i'd just go ahead and follow the path he built.  :)
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    I get it now! Sorry, it's late and I'm slow. Yeah, I don't think it's that weird to exit to the left, and since he has put all of this work into it, I'd just use it. Not that big of a deal, I don't think.
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  • bridalgal50bridalgal50 member
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    Hey, this isn't odd at ALL!  My DD#1 and her new hubby did this at their outdoor wedding 2 years ago!

    The ceremony was in her Fiance's back yard.  We all walked down a center 'aisle', but after the ceremony they exited to our left because they were greeting guests under the gazebo- which was on the path the guests would be taking past the house to the front yard for cocktail hour.  For the 'flow' of the day, it just made more sense to do it that way.  It worked just fine.  :)

    So if you don't mind, go for it!  Take your first steps as a married couple on the beautiful pathway that he built for you!

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  • blgroutblgrout
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    Dangit I am so slow sometimes but I get it now :)  I thought that's what you meant, but then I started second guessing myself and you know how that goes.  

    Epiphany, that's so cool that you guys are getting married at FI's parents house!  A small part of me wanted to do that, since my FI's parents live on an island in the middle of the Columbia River, it would be beautiful, but we didn't want a summer wedding, so we'd have weather/flooding conerns to do an outdoor ceremony here in the Spring, so yeah.  There were other reason too, but I think that's really cool that you get to do it!  
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  • meganb1977meganb1977 member
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    Ditto chicken
    Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.
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