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catrb89catrb89 member
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So, I'm semi-new here and was wondering how everyone here who is NYE deals with waiting for the ring. We've had ours picked out since Nov 2011 and as of late, I thought it was happening this summer - come to find, it's most likely happening in the winter (he gives me clues ;) ). I love talking about our future wedding and while we've toned down our wedding talk for the sake of my sanity, waiting still sucks! Any advice?
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  • thelamarrsthelamarrs
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    Just focus on your daily activities and live life like normal. 

    You have the rest of your life to be married, so enjoy life as it is now! Don't worry about planning for a wedding or anything until you've got the ring since that is what being engaged is for!

    Pick up a new hobby or read books... just don't focus on the ring. 
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  • audrewuhaudrewuh member
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    Take up a hobby. I read a million books. Focus on the here and now because you won get to live it again! It's very exciting to be at this point, but to keep yourself from becoming a blubbering idiot who can only talk wedding, take up a hobby and blubber about that instead.
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  • flygirlmegflygirlmeg
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    Distract yourself!!  Tell us all about you.  What do you and your SO do?  Hobbies?  Favorite wine/cocktail?  And yes, how do you like our potatoes?
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  • thelamarrsthelamarrs
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    Do you like to read? Do you bake? Do crafts? :)
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  • Peaseblossom55Peaseblossom55 mod
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    tell us about yourself!

    Find hobbies and keep busy.  I am reading a lot right now...
    I'm really trying to enjoy the now and not think too far ahead.

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  • catrb89catrb89 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:c7b3600d-5b0f-411e-a1f8-2833f55653f4">Re: Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]Distract yourself!!  Tell us all about you.  What do you and your SO do?  Hobbies?  Favorite wine/cocktail?  And yes, how do you like our potatoes?
    Posted by flygirlmeg[/QUOTE]
     
    Well, I'm 23 and a mental health technician and currently in a masters program for forensic psychology, although my ultimate goal would be to be a college professor. My SO is an associate of business admin at a marking and tech firm and he's 25. We both love reading. He's a fantastic writer. My favorite wine is .... all and in my bloodstream. Potatoes? Mashed with sour cream. OR fried with paprika. NOM!
    Thank you for the distraction ;) We share an apartment, bank account, etc so my coworkers are always asking when we are getting married!
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  • LilTexasGalLilTexasGal
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    Try not to let your coworkers drive you too bonkers. I know how tough it can be when you have peple asking when the ring is coming.

    I agree with PP, get yourself something to distract yourself. Design doggy tu-tus, take up knitting, learn to speak another languarge - anything to take your mind off things! So, do you like fresh rolls?
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  • kaitlynmichellekaitlynmichelle member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:0e199b20-5a91-4234-aebf-9a5911c98c31">Re: Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for the ring :   Well, I'm 23 and a mental health technician and currently in a masters program for forensic psychology, although my ultimate goal would be to be a college professor. My SO is an associate of business admin at a marking and tech firm and he's 25. We both love reading. He's a fantastic writer. My favorite wine is .... all and in my bloodstream. Potatoes? Mashed with sour cream. OR fried with paprika. NOM! Thank you for the distraction ;) We share an apartment, bank account, etc so my coworkers are always asking when we are getting married!
    Posted by catrb89[/QUOTE]

    <div>Learn to ignore the coworkers/friends comment.  BF and I have been dating for 7 1/2 years, so the comments are only getting worse as time goes on.  Focus on other activities as everyone else said.  </div><div>
    </div><div>What are your favourite books?  I'm a huge fan of reading :)</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:99d429b3-0569-4c90-b31a-abc9bbad7d77">Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]So, I'm semi-new here and was wondering how everyone here who is <strong>NYE</strong> deals with waiting for the ring. We've had ours picked out since Nov 2011 and as of late, I thought it was happening this summer - come to find, it's most likely happening in the winter (he gives me clues ;) ). I love talking about our future wedding and while we've toned down our wedding talk for the sake of my sanity, waiting still sucks! Any advice?
    Posted by catrb89[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Well, I am not new years eve over here, but I am NEY.</div><div>
    </div><div>It's really nothing.  It's just a state of relationship.  I honestly don't think about it very often, partially because we've only been together 6 months and partially because I'd rather look at his cute butt than plan a wedding.</div><div>
    </div><div>Step back, have a moment, get excited, then back to normal life, okay?  Okay.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:a67b5eba-984b-48df-bf35-280d471916f2">Re: Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: <strong>Waiting for the ring : Learn to ignore the coworkers/friends comment.  BF and I have been dating for 7 1/2 years, so the comments are only getting worse as time goes on</strong>.  Focus on other activities as everyone else said.   What are your favourite books?  I'm a huge fan of reading :)
    Posted by kaitlynmichelle[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>It's only been 2 1/2 for us and some of the comments I get are awful.  I can't believe how rude some people cab be.  I get most of them mean well, but it's annoying.  Please ignore all comments and just be happy with where you are.

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  • FreeSpirit666FreeSpirit666
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    I'm still waiting for mine lol, but my motto is

    PAtience to the Spider.

    He'll come round when the time is right lol
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  • mymissingpuzzlepiecemymissingpuzzlepiece
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    [QUOTE]I'm still waiting for mine lol, but my motto is PAtience to the Spider. He'll come round when the time is right lol
    Posted by FreeSpirit666[/QUOTE]

    <div>Okay, we get it... you're waiting. You say it on like every post, do you have anything else to say?</div>
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  • Demi&JasonDemi&Jason
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:acf39acb-2e95-4f21-8d45-e1b9d246c3d5">Re: Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just focus on your daily activities and live life like normal.  You have the rest of your life to be married, so enjoy life as it is now! Don't worry about planning for a wedding or anything until you've got the ring since that is what being engaged is for! Pick up a new hobby or read books... just don't focus on the ring. 
    Posted by thelamarrs[/QUOTE]

    <div>I totally agree! Go out and make some new memories! If all you focus on is the ring/wedding then after its all over, you may find yourself bored with married life....I just started a new hobby, making my own lip balm, lotions and soap making! :)</div>
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  • SwazzleSwazzle member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:2885146b-233b-4487-941b-897d3d3bfdfe">Re: Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for the ring : Okay, we get it... you're waiting. You say it on like every post, do you have anything else to say?
    Posted by mymissingpuzzlepiece[/QUOTE]

    <div>She also "lol"s a lot. </div><div>
    </div><div>lol</div>



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  • mymissingpuzzlepiecemymissingpuzzlepiece
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:8467d571-ecfd-4fbf-ae16-453bd6eb286b">Re: Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for the ring : She also "lol"s a lot.  lol
    Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

    <div>and writes in different colored font even after she was asked to not write in colored font. What is so awesome about writing in colored font?</div>
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  • catrb89catrb89 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-for-the-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ff0a3c25-123c-49a1-a057-53f338300687Post:a67b5eba-984b-48df-bf35-280d471916f2">Re: Waiting for the ring</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for the ring : Learn to ignore the coworkers/friends comment.  BF and I have been dating for 7 1/2 years, so the comments are only getting worse as time goes on.  Focus on other activities as everyone else said.   What are your favourite books?  I'm a huge fan of reading :)
    Posted by kaitlynmichelle[/QUOTE]

    Huge book nerd over here. I really like books about forensic psych and true crime stories. I also enjoyed the Hunger Games, too even though I was iffy about it at first. I like Chuck Palahniuk's older books, his new stuff seems to get consistently shitty reviews so I don't bother. Jodi Picoult is pretty damn good too :)
    Thanks for the distraction guys!
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  • LilTexasGalLilTexasGal
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for the ring : Huge book nerd over here. I really like books about forensic psych and true crime stories. I also enjoyed the Hunger Games, too even though I was iffy about it at first. I like Chuck Palahniuk's older books, his new stuff seems to get consistently shitty reviews so I don't bother. Jodi Picoult is pretty damn good too :) Thanks for the distraction guys!
    Posted by catrb89[/QUOTE]

    <div>I hope you stick around.</div>
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  • catrb89catrb89 member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for the ring : I hope you stick around.
    Posted by LilTexasGal[/QUOTE]

    I plan on it! Love the signature pic by the way, it's the story of my life.
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  • LilTexasGalLilTexasGal
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for the ring : I plan on it! Love the signature pic by the way, it's the story of my life.
    Posted by catrb89[/QUOTE]

    <div>Haha thanks. I love my wine. FI's parents are members of like a million Vineyards, and his aunt lives near Napa Valley. Whenever they get a new wine in they always invite me over to try it with them.</div><div>
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  • Olson60Olson60 member
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    Pink Moscato. 50 Shades of Grey. And LOTS of busy activity... like volunteering, or working out, rearrange/redecorate your house or room. Anything but focusing on the only thing you can think about. Theyre right, you only get this time ONCE and im right there with you. I also am the only one at my work who isnt married. 2.5 years later....
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  • stenersonsquadstenersonsquad member
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    Write. I absolutely need it! Especially when I start feeling overwhelmed by what's to come. It's not here yet! 

    I'm in the same boat, we picked out the ring but I'm waiting for him to do his thing. It's important for me to savor the moment. 

    Just think: After the engagement, you'll be his fiance then his wife. I had to remind myself how much I enjoy being his girlfriend. I want to get married to this man more than I've wanted anything. But, I also really love where we are today. 

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  • xSkiesmostwantedxxSkiesmostwantedx
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    Definitely do whatever will help you keep your mind off of it. I am going through the same thing now, where "hints" are dropped, which I had told him the other day to stop dropping hints it just makes me anxious! What has been making matters worse is that we have 7 weddings to attend this year, so everyone else is asking when is it going to happen. Our family and coworkers do not make it easy that is for sure...sheesh. I really wish they would just stop harassing him about it, he'll do it when he is ready. But when I feel anxious about it, I go out and shoot photos (I love photography) or draw, or read, or surf, or just take a drive lol. 
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  • mystakillamystakilla member
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    Same boat here too!  We looked on new years eve and just after.  We found exactly what i wanted.  Im incredibly anxious but have been trying to focus on my work.  Then my cousin, who met her guy after i met mine, got engaged and is marrying her second husband on labor day!  So that rekindled the anxiousness!  It also brought comments from a few family members about when will it be my turn.  Rude for sure and any opinion I have about her plans, which are a little out of control, would be "sour grapes"...so saying nothing.  It is a milestone, and at one time it was something i though i could live without, but then I met Charlie!
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  • JaniV123JaniV123 member
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    take up a hobby and dont stress too much. its only been 1 year and 9 months. enjoy your relationship to the max.

    im going on 5 years and wouldn't change a thing. 

    best years ouf lives


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