Although he hasn't formally asked the question (due to the fact that he lives in another country), I consider us engaged. We are talking about a budget for the wedding, looking into the legal mumbo jumbo to get him over here, and all of that fun stuff. One thing that came up in conversation was about our attendants. I do not have very many friends, and my absolute best friend is a gay guy. My fiancée doesn't know him very well, and doesn't really have anything against homosexuals, but he got very angry when I said that I wanted him to be my "Man of Honor". My friend is really weird, but he's got a heart of gold, so my fiancée doesn't like the idea of him being in the wedding party. He said that he'd rather have my friend be one of his groomsmen than be my Honor Attendant, but it would really mean a lot to me to have him standing next to ME while I take my vows.
Also, my mom is against the choice ONLY because she firmly believes I should pick my sister as my Maid of Honor. I've already told her that I value her advice and her opinion, and I really want her help with the wedding, but since we're paying and it's my wedding, that I'm going to do things my way. I feel that the only other person that should have any actual sway in wedding matters is my fiancée, however he seems adamant against me having my friend as my Man of Honor. How do I handle this? I don't want to "put my foot down" so to speak, but this really means a lot to me.