For our ceremony a friend of ours will be our officiant to ensure a secular and personal ceremony. We are going to write our own vows. Instead of a candle lighting ceremony, we will exchange love letters into a wooden lock box with a bottle of wine with a promise that on our first anniversary we will open the box and read the letter and share the wine. Zach would like to make this a yearly thing for our anniversary. When we are old and grey we can look back on all our love letters to each other and see how our marriage progresses.