One of my best friends.. DECLINED!

Re: One of my best friends.. DECLINED!

• janice0487

  

  January 2012

  After I was re-reading this - I need to clarify. She doesn't know she has been kicked out, because I can't get ahold of her..

  

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• lnl1025

  

  January 2012

  Breathe.. It will all work itself out. Thats what I keep telling myself. My longest friend EVER isnt going to be able to make it. She tried but with hotels and flight costs for her and her husband and everything else, it just didnt work out. I cried the whole day, but I understand. IN the end , a weddnig is a wedding, and as much as we want them there, sometimes the timing isnt right for them to be able to make it happen. And much like yours, just because she says shes going to the other friends wedding, doesnt mean she'll make it to that either. Maybe she's hoping her taxes will help pay for that trip lol. Im sorry you're bummed out. IM stressed out, ignore my poor grammar and typing skills. Oh if it makes you feel any better, I had to SHIP my moh a measuring tape before she would get herself measured... she had SEVEN months to get measured on her own, or claim she was buying a tape to do it. and never did. I finally shipped her  one and thats the only way i got her measurements and I paid for her dress... She says shes coming, but has yet to buy her ticket. She even had her moms credit card IN HAND the other day and still didnt get her ticket, after her mom said she would pay for it to make sure she got here. our wedding is in 30 days. and now because my fi's father was griping about people bringing spouses and kids to rd and his mom asked their kids to leave the little ones home, now his sister and sister in law are sending him nasty messages saying theyre not coming since they cant bring their kids... they told his mom , OHH NO problem we arent staying in Lincoln friday night anyway so thats fine... but now theyre calling up yelling at my fiance... OH MY GOD my head may explode... I say we both need a stiff drink and a massage. Please let this next month go by!!

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• Dududulce member

  

  January 2012

  I am kind of laughing, but only because I have been going through some family drama too- so it's more like relief laughing that this seems to be normal. I have pretty drama free family and friends, so I think this is just the nature of what we're trying to organize. It's never going to be great timing for everyone so there will always be some people that can't/don't come or are upset about costs etc.
  
  I found out via group email that one of my best friends isn't going to make it to our party at home for friends. She was leaving for a huge 8 month trip and is now gone. In the end I talked through it with her. I wasn't upset so much that she wasn't coming (although I cried, I understand that people have their own lives to live), I was super upset that I only found out through a group email announcing her trip. She was really apologetic and we have only become closer.
  
  But, it's tough stuff, ladies!

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• Mo2T&O member

  

  January 2012

  So terrible your friend isn't going to make it. I would be just as upset. It;s even worse cause she's made it clear she's going to the other friends wedding in Miami!
  Good for you kicking that girl out! I can't believe you had to buy her dress and then she plans to leave town when you're there for your shower and everything and not even tell you herself. What a terrible excuse for a friend....I definitely don't think you're a bad person for kicking her out.
  
  I have to admit, you cracked me up when you said she doesn't know cause you can't get in touch with her. Too funny! Sorry you're dealing with such a crappy friend!

  

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• NMAmato0120

  

  January 2012

  My RSVPs have just started rolling in, so I'm waiting for the drama to unfold! 

  
  

  Don't worry about kicking out the BM.  She doesn't deserve to stand next to you on your special day if she's acting like that. Good luck getting a hold of her!

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• AZMagnini14 member

  

  January 2012

  Goodluck everyone in the final weeks!

  

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• SunshinyLees member

  

  January 2012

  If I can give you any advice, make sure you sit down with your bridesmaid and have a heart to heart and tell her about how you're feeling and hear her side before you kick her out of your wedding. I was kicked out of a wedding because the bride was an absolute bridezilla and had no compasion for things that were going on in other peoples lives. I was so excited for her day and did alot for her but there was a few things that bothered her and she took them personally. I coulnd't go dress shopping with her one day because i was closing on my apartment i just bought and was at the bank with my lawyer and parents, also I came back from vacation super sick and missed an evening she organized with her bridesmaids to look at magazines. I coulnt believe she got so mad and I begged her to belive me that I wasn't doing this on purpose and that I loved her but she still kicked me out!
  We dont speak now, I haven't seen her in three years and although I was upset at the time for being kicked out of her wedding for doing nothing wrong, its all for the best because she was never a very good friend ( obviously), in fact her MOH doesn't even speak to her anymore because of the way she treated her and everyone at her wedding. All Im saying is just make sure that if you kick her out of your wedding, you hear out her side and you are comfortable with this maybe ending your friendship for good.

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• janice0487

  

  January 2012

  Thanks for the advice A bottle of wine sure solved all my problems last night! hahaha.

  

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• EmIuliana

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  I know it is bad news when one of the closest friends of yours says she isn't coming to the wedding, it's an awful situation, but what can you do? I would be as pissed off as you are, but it doesn't matter anymore, you have lots on your head with all that willcome, don't feel too stressed about this matter! 

  As for the bridesmaid, if you say that she did what she did, then she deserves to be kicked out of your bridal party!

  Have a nice day and maintain yourself calm, put yourself together, because you are going to have lots on your head!

  
  

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