So I think things have finally come to a head with my disappointment (and maybe a bit of anger) with my mom. I have been holding it in and just letting it boil inside but today she set me off - I'm about ready to explode on her so I need to vent before I say something I don't mean.
Ever since I was young, I had always thought my mom would be by my side helping me with my wedding....coming along to dress fittings, offering her help for things, etc. She hasn't done ANYTHING or offered to help AT ALL...both financially and in other non-monetary ways. I know my parents can't afford the wedding we want so I didn't exactly expect them to fork over anything. That's why FI and I are paying for it all ourselves. Alright cool - now we get to make all the decisions..but I wish she had at least offered to help with SOMETHING. I also want to note that I never asked for her help on anything, thinking that if she wanted to, she would offer. NOPE! I don't even get calls from her to check on how I am doing. I have had emotional breakdowns because I felt like me getting married isn't a priority to her. I feel abandoned by my own mom when I feel like I need her the most. FMIL has been way more helpful and has even checked in on me a few times just to make sure I am ok and to see if I need any help with anything. Not once has my mom done that throughout this whole wedding planning process and I am disappointed that it seems like she doesn't want to be a part of it.
Now I get a message from my sister saying that my mom says I have to add so-and-so's mom to the list (she wasn't invited) because she lives with one of the people invited (I didn't know that when I sent the invites and my mom never told me so I didn't build that extra person in the budget). The family that was invited was someone on my mom's list of people to invite so I don't actually know these people but I figured I'd let her invite some people thinking that she would at least help with things. My mom now offers to pay for her if I say ok. So now she cares about things? I really don't feel like we should have to accomodate this extra person...even if my mom pays. I'm so upset with her that I don't even care if she pays.
I know I'm probably being petty (wedding stress is getting to me and I'm turning into an emotional train wreck) but I can't get over how disappointed I have been with her throughout this whole process. I thought I would be sharing this experience with her but I guess she wants nothing to do with it. It hurts. What would you do? Just invite this lady and shut up or put my foot down and say she can't come?
If you made it through this whole thing....thanks. I feel better now that I got this off my chest.
Married since October 14, 2012 - Best Day Ever!
