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knowledge can be a bad, bad thing
My H is in IT, and it seems that everyone and his dog has a problem with their computer that they need help with. H is a manager of a web production team, but given that this means nothing to most lay people, they figure that anything and everything computer related can be fixed by H.
We're about to leave to go to a friend's party, and H gets a call- his mother has a friend from work who can't set up her gmail, can he call this lady and help her?
I'm all for compassion and helping others, but really?
What knowledge/skills do you or your H/FI have that are sometimes a curse?
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Re: knowledge can be a bad, bad thing
Usually when a fuckedup story makes headlines nation-wide (like the Virginia Tech shooting), people will ask me why it happened, or what was wrong with the perpetrator because of my psych background. Also, people point out when I say "crazy" in everyday conversation, and ask me if that's the "official psych term." Sometimes it sucks.
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[QUOTE]I think if you cant set up your own damn gmail account, you need to step away from the 21st century and just give up.
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Awesome.
I am a CPA so people always assume I know about taxes. I knew just enough to pass my exam and I do my own taxes and those of one friend. After 9 years working in the non-profit world, I know no more about income taxes than the people at H&R Block, and probably a lot less.
Not only is it irresponsible for DH to try and fix that over the phone without seeing how things are wired, etc., but it's pretty fricken pointless to even try, because if it was all done properly (as people always assert that it is) then it would work and they wouldn't be calling in the first place.
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I am in medical school now and anytime someone has a weird rash or has heard of some crazy medically related thing they always call us. The holidays are always the worst. "Is it true that Sudoku prevents Alzheimers?" or "Do sperm with the Y chromosome swim faster than those with the X?"
Sometimes I even get asked about pet questions.... lol.
I know, Nebb. She can't get it to work because she was entering her gmail address as the verification email (eg. the alternate email address that you use to verify your gmail account...). It seems they've had to start all over again though, which is taking some time.
Having thought about my own question, haha, it is only rather randomly that I feel the suckage that comes with having the title, 'psychologist'. From time to time, I get stuck with weirdos who want to tell me their whole life story so that I can help them out. Screaming, "I am NOT a clinical psychologist!' does little to help in these situations... but still, at least I don't have my mother calling me asking me to call her random friends and help them through their mundane problems.
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[QUOTE] Having thought about my own question, haha, it is only rather randomly that I feel the suckage that comes with having the title, 'psychologist'. From time to time, I get stuck with weirdos who want to tell me their whole life story so that I can help them out. Screaming, "I am NOT a clinical psychologist!' does little to help in these situations... but still, at least I don't have my mother calling me asking me to call her random friends and help them through their mundane problems.
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Aw, I figured you'd get this all the time. Sometimes what's even worse is when you're having a perfectly decent conversation with someone, and they keep asking if you're analyzing them, because that's apparently really funny to think they'd be interesting enough. If one more non-client tells me they would make a great case study for me or "teach me all I need to know about psych," I'm going to kick them.
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"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
Also, I do (corporate sales/use/property) taxes for a living. The questions will increase as we close in on April 15th. No, I don't want to do your taxes, friends. I don't do personal income, people. Call H&R Block.
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This is a great thread, I feel for all of you people!
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I have a psych background and am a social worker, so people are always telling me a problem they or someone they know has and asking what they should do.
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He's a master plumber by trade, so of course there's the usual requests to install water heaters, water softeners, sinks, showerheads, ect. Also, he's a car guy, and between himself and another friend, he's done some serious mod work to his car. He can tear apart and put certain cars back together, which is ironically what a bunch of his friends have. If he can't, a friend and him can between the two of them. Lastly, he's a budding computer nerd. He's built his own desktop computer, and done some work to our laptops. With his car friend, they've amassed a substantial music and movie/tv show collection on the harddrive. He's got a pretty good setup for ripping and downloading music and movies.
So, he always getting requests to do this or that. Most of the time, if he's in a good mood and he likes you, he'll do what he can. If you've abused you're assistance privileges, he'll say no or you get to pay him. Like, his brother is always asking to reload Windows on a computer, or fix his car (he bought the same model as FI has ripped apart, and expected FI to provide him with expensive high performance parts and labor; ummm, no).
Having a FI that can figure many things out, or at least knows someone who can, is awesome. Being asked to do this that or the other, not so much.
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