Am I an Anti-Bride???

Blueyed228 · January 2010

So I have been engaged almost a year now and still have not set a date. Everytime I think about it I get sick to my stomach. I am so nervous. Having a wedding was never important to me, but it is HUGE for FI. He really wants a traditional wedding, and I love him enough to do that for him. I am petrified to be center of attention etc. I went looking for wedding gowns and hyperventilated in the fitting room. I think i have looked at every venue in Mass and seem to find something wrong with every one of them. What is wrong with me??? Did this happen to anyone else? Any advice?

jay10 · January 2010

I found the whole thing very scary before I started planning....I couldnt envision how it would go or that we could pull it off....I still cant

I couldnt come up with any ideas, like a mental block!
the first thing I did was buy a dress (Randomly, didnt really think I would find one but I did) and after that I kinda got excited and ideas came out of nowhere......long story short, I think it took me to do one thing for definate (i.e dress, venue, date etc) to get excited about the rest of it!
We are getting married Nov 2010 and will have been engaged over 2 years at that stage! took a long time to get motivated......it will come together, start with something small
good luck

LexiMS · January 2010

Don't worry, there are certain aspects that everyone gets hung up on. I have been dreaming about my wedding since I could walk...but I still hyperventilated when I tried on dresses and found the whole process rather stressful. My suggestion would be to find a venue that has a good on-stie coordinator and a good package deal. Your fiance will get the wedding he wants and you wont need to make nearly as many decisions.

megandjay · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_massachusetts-boston_am-anti-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:89Discussion:32fd4c76-151f-4438-8754-4e0affb6c7afPost:ad294248-e5a3-4738-baa5-328971d4d7ab">Re: Am I an Anti-Bride???</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't worry, there are certain aspects that everyone gets hung up on. I have been dreaming about my wedding since I could walk...but I still hyperventilated when I tried on dresses and found the whole process rather stressful. My suggestion would be to find a venue that has a good on-stie coordinator and a good package deal. Your fiance will get the wedding he wants and you wont need to make nearly as many decisions.
Posted by LexiMS[/QUOTE]

I agree, find a venue that has a good on-site coordinator and lots of experience with weddings (mine doesn't and that has made things much more difficult). Also I had a long engagement, and I really think you only need 6 months to plan, so giving yourself a shorter time might make things go more quickly because you won't have time to think and re-think everything...Good luck!!!

BostonGirl82 · January 2010

I don't enjoy being the center of attention so I can relate where you are coming from. I think the overall wedding planning process can be very overwhelming, and it is very important to just take a step back, breathe, and tackle one thing at a time. At the end of the day the most important thing to remember is that you are marrying your FI

Personally, a lot of things fell into place once I booked my venue. I know you said that you looked at every place in MA. Is there a place that holds a special place in you and your FI's heart? Or I highly suggest utilizing this board because the ladies on here are so helpful!

LoveAdopted · January 2010

I was definitely overwhelmed when I started wedding planning. I wanted it all and to plan everything myself, but I didn't know where to start. Are there venues you've looked at that you could be happy with and where you could see your wedding taking place? Even if there is something you don't like- unless you build and staff it yourself, not everything is going to be exactly what you like.

I would choose a venue, and like pp said everything else will start to fall into place. If season/date doesn't matter, look at what is available at that venue and think of your and FI's work schedules and maybe consult the people in your family/BP who matter the most. Let those factors help you decide on your date. Then use the season and setting help you narrow down a style and level of formality, and things will start to become much more clear.

Blueyed228 · January 2010

Loveadopted:

I actually LOVED willowdale estate but he hated it. He wants hotel ballroom style and I would rather do outdoors /beachy/ historic. I already lost the church/no church fight, lol. (Church it is). But he really wants something formal.........everytime I mention something less formal he gets this sad look on his face and gives me the whole "I guess, sure, whatever you want" and then i feel bad.........

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