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I thought this was bad...? PIP

lstruggleslstruggles member
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This is all over Pinterest and people are repinning it like crazy saying "Great Idea for the gift table" or "I'm doing this" - I thought the $ dance and this type of thing placed on the gift table was now considered bad ettiquette....am I wrong?

My fsil thinks this is a great idea but I'm thinking RUDE....

thoughts?
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  • lstruggleslstruggles member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-thought-this-was-bad-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:704b3347-ab25-41ae-abdb-9122988cd7a4Post:cee8ea1e-fda2-424f-8ad5-d67cd92085ac">Re: I thought this was bad...? PIP</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wouldn't do it. I think it's rude.  It's very similar to a wishing well which is equally bad.  Most of your guests will already have gotten you a gift; this is just another way to hit them up for money.
    Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

    I completely agree with you - I guess those on Pinterest who are repinning just think its acceptable!
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  • LeiselEBLeiselEB member
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    I think it's rude to have at the wedding, for sure.

    I did jokingly make something like this for my FI, just to keep around the house and put loose change in. No one sees it but us.
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  • chattychiqachattychiqa member
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    *shudders*
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    Rude.
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-thought-this-was-bad-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:704b3347-ab25-41ae-abdb-9122988cd7a4Post:56df0c63-79b8-4be3-91f8-cded4ff23482">Re: I thought this was bad...? PIP</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's rude to have at the wedding, for sure. <strong>I did jokingly make something like this for my FI, just to keep around the house and put loose change in. No one sees it but us.</strong>
    Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]
    And you're not asking anyone else to contribute to it :)
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    Anything that even remotely resembles begging for money is rude. 
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  • mjmchugh86mjmchugh86 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-thought-this-was-bad-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:704b3347-ab25-41ae-abdb-9122988cd7a4Post:56df0c63-79b8-4be3-91f8-cded4ff23482">Re: I thought this was bad...? PIP</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's rude to have at the wedding, for sure. I did jokingly make something like this for my FI, just to keep around the house and put loose change in. No one sees it but us.
    Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]


    Don't joke! My parents gave me one when I was 15 that said "new car fund" and I had about $100 in spare change in it when I cleaned it out. That would pay for a nice honeymoon activity.

    This is an awesome idea for around the house. A horrible idea for a wedding.
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    Blech
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  • LeiselEBLeiselEB member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-thought-this-was-bad-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:704b3347-ab25-41ae-abdb-9122988cd7a4Post:a4935e61-29ee-41f1-8e6d-08add261e5c7">Re: I thought this was bad...? PIP</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I thought this was bad...? PIP : Don't joke! My parents gave me one when I was 15 that said "new car fund" and I had about $100 in spare change in it when I cleaned it out. That would pay for a nice honeymoon activity. This is an awesome idea for around the house. A horrible idea for a wedding.
    Posted by mjmchugh86[/QUOTE]

    <div>Oh yeah, it's definitely added up :)</div>
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Ditto mjm.  I love the idea of this being a 'somewhere in the house' sort of thing so that you and FI contribute to it at random times.   That thing has NO business at a wedding. 
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  • pkontkpkontk member
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    Ugh, I saw it as a post on wedding bee and didn't even bother looking at the discussion. It's certainly not making an appearance at our wedding!
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    If I were a guest at a wedding where this was featured I would be highly inclined to drop a note inside that says "Pay for you own vacation".
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    Go with your gut.  This is rude ... and tacky!
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  • goobersinlovegoobersinlove member
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    I saw that over pinterest too with hundreds of re-pins. I wish there was a way I could delete it from the internet altogether.

    Leisel, you look BEAUTIFUL in your dress.
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  • cmhutchison22cmhutchison22
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    FMIL was just talking about something like this at dinner tonight.  She said that people used to pass around a collection plate to help pay for the wedding.  I looked at FI and just shuddered. 
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  • amandarashellamandarashell
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    I know I am in the minority and will always be on this board, but I think it's cute! No there will not be one at my wedding or anything but I would contribute to it if it was at a friend or family's wedding. Maybe it's becuase everyone in my town/circle does things like honeymoon registries and dollar dances. I just think it's cute. I know everyone and their brother thinks its gross tacky rude ect.
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  • HeathenSwanHeathenSwan member
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    There's no requirement to contribute, just like there's no requirement to participate in a dollar dance. It's regional. It's not tacky or rude everywhere. Much like a cake and punch reception is NOT considered proper in certain areas, a dollar dance or honeymoon jar is not considered improper.

    How is this any more rude than a big box that says "CARDS!!", or even registering? Instead of a couple of dimes or a buck, you're asking for hundred dollar towels and such. Either it's all begging or none of it's begging. Sorry, girls. I just don't get it.
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  • ajmom2twoajmom2two
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-thought-this-was-bad-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:704b3347-ab25-41ae-abdb-9122988cd7a4Post:0a598786-f7b5-4553-bae4-4c3d1f4dd51e">Re:I thought this was bad...? PIP</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:I thought this was bad...? PIP: A I know no one in any region who thinks cake and punch are unacceptable. False analogy. B etiquette isn't regional. Good manners are not regional. There are some social circles who choose not to be offended by certain rude behaviors, in the same way I am not offended by my husband farting and then cracking a joke about it. That doesn't mean it's acceptable behavior in mixed company. C just because something is common in your area does not mean no one gets offended by it. It means they don't make their offense well known. We had a wedding with no gap and no dollar dance/pass the shoe/etc. Both are very common around here, but plenty of guests pulled us aside and even called us afterwards to thank us for skipping these "traditions". D a registry and a card box are both for your guests' convenience/piece of mind. You don't advertise your registry at all and cards do not imply gift or money. Again, a false analogy.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>All of this!  Its not like a card cant just say congratulations and have no money in it!  I always drop my card in the card box and I always by an actual gift off the registry.  I put my card in the box so it doesn't get lost.  

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  • thadiva3thadiva3 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-thought-this-was-bad-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:704b3347-ab25-41ae-abdb-9122988cd7a4Post:56df0c63-79b8-4be3-91f8-cded4ff23482">Re: I thought this was bad...? PIP</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's rude to have at the wedding, for sure. I did jokingly make something like this for my FI, just to keep around the house and put loose change in. No one sees it but us.
    Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

    You look GREAT! Your dress is very pretty!
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  • julibug86julibug86
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    I'm pretty sure I'm one of those people who repinned this, but I definitely meant it as an around the house thing for the FI and I to drop our change in.  We have a little money jar now and in just six months managed to get up to $150!  Not quite enough for a honeymoon, but but we were able to buy new window shades and have a dinner out!
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  • MangoSongMangoSong member
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    I think it's rude. If it's something you put in your bedroom as a place to put spare change, it's one thing. But AT the wedding? TACKY!
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  • OwningAHome1981OwningAHome1981 member
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    It's tacky to ask for money always... no matter how little.
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  • mamabear329mamabear329 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-thought-this-was-bad-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:704b3347-ab25-41ae-abdb-9122988cd7a4Post:56df0c63-79b8-4be3-91f8-cded4ff23482">Re: I thought this was bad...? PIP</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's rude to have at the wedding, for sure. I did jokingly make something like this for my FI, just to keep around the house and put loose change in. No one sees it but us.
    Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

    I totally agree....I repinned it myself, but as something for the house, not for our wedding, just like I'd seen it pinned originally...I haven't seen anyone pin it as something to have out at the wedding...I'd find it tacky if I attended a wedding that had something like this out...
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