October 2012 Weddings

Overly Ambitious MOH

My sister and I have a loveannoy relationship. She's my MOH and honestly I wasn't sure how much wedding planning she could take, but so far she's been a huge help. She's the only one of the girls in the same city as me so she's gone with me for just about every wedding errand and I couldn't be happier. However, when it comes to communicating with the BM she almost gets mad when I email them, instead of her. While I love that she's willing to fill everyone in, I feel like there are some things that ashould come from the bride and bare easier for me to email them directly than give MOH the details and let her email them. As much as it pains me to be out of the loop on the shower, I'm letting her handle that. Is it ok for me to keep sending info to my BMs or should I be happy that she's so ambitious and let her be the messenger? The next thing I need to find out is what time everyone will be in town for rehearsal so I can schedule manicures before or after, and let them know I'm covering the cost of that.

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  • I would find it strange if I were in someone's wedding but all the info I got came from the MOH. Info about the shower and B-party, I can understand coming from MOH, but all wedding info? She can handle the details about the shower and/or any other parties being planned in your honor.  Let her know that when it comes to details about the actual wedding you'll be communicating with your bridesmaids yourself.
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  • Completely agree with CFM.
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  • In Response to Re:Overly Ambitious MOH:[QUOTE]I would find it strange if I were in someone's wedding but all the info I got came from the MOH. Info about the shower and Bparty, I can understand coming from MOH, but all wedding info? She can handle the details about the shower and/or any other parties being planned in your honor. nbsp;Let her know that when it comes to details about the actual wedding you'll be communicating with your bridesmaids yourself. Posted by CFM102012[/QUOTE]

    This. As much as I love my moh and appreciate her help, there are just some things I am more comfortable communicating to the bridesmaids myself directly...specifically important details regarding the wedding itself, where they need to be, what time, rehearsal, dresses, etc. Sometimes you'll tell someone and they may misinterpret what you mean when they relay that info on to someone else or if it's something important, they may not put the same sense of urgency I would.

    Plus, I feel like when it comes from the bride herself, people might be more inclined to do what you want..as compared to if it was communicated through someone else like your moh.

    I would just tell your moh you appreciate her help but that you will be communicating the wedding details from here. She can still communicate info regarding the shower and bachelorette party though since she is the one planning.

    Hope that helps!
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  • Wait a minute... she's mad because you're contacting your own friends about a big shindig that you're throwing?? Egads. What on earth is the sense in telling her to tell someone else something, when you could do it yourself and cut the middleman/make sure they get the message/save time?
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