How to tell people about the registry?

hanxueying · January 2013

Hi!

My fiance and I are going to get married abroad (Italy) and will only be inviting family members to the wedding for a total of 10 people (counting us!). We want to throw a party for our friends back home to celebrate our wedding. My question is when we invite our friends to the party, (1) should this be a formal invitation like a wedding invitation or can something informal also be okay and (2) do we need to say anything about a registry? We want to essentially tell our friends that it's not required for them to get us a gift but of course, we would appreciate any gifts. And if this is the message, do we still register?

Thank you!

Jen4948 · January 2013

1) You can have a big party, but whatever you do, don't call this a "wedding" party or reception. It's really not polite to invite people to celebrate an event you didn't actually invite them to.

2) No. Don't register for gifts. And don't mention gifts in any way, shape, or form in your invitations-including "no gifts" or "your presence is your present" messages. Aside from the fact that any mention of gifts, including "no gifts" messages suggests that you think you are entitled to gifts (which you are not) and comes off as gift-grabby, it is not appropriate to register for gifts in celebration of an occasion you are not inviting these people to.

hoffse · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_how-to-tell-people-about-the-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:e511fe67-0f12-4bd4-9eb1-4627666bc51dPost:7c496508-fb25-4d41-98a0-b4923b769fa5">Re: How to tell people about the registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]1) You can have a big party, but whatever you do, don't call this a "wedding" party or reception. It's really not polite to invite people to celebrate an event you didn't actually invite them to. 2) No. Don't register for gifts. And don't mention gifts in any way, shape, or form in your invitations-including "no gifts" or "your presence is your present" messages. Aside from the fact that any mention of gifts, including "no gifts" messages suggests that you think you are entitled to gifts (which you are not) and comes off as gift-grabby, it is not appropriate to register for gifts in celebration of an occasion you are not inviting these people to.
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<div>All of this. As romantic as destination weddings are, they have consequences. One of the consequences is no shower, no e-party, no registry, etc.</div>

emeejeeayen · January 2013

Don't people always talk about at home receptions, though?

I think you're still not supposed to register for gifts, though.

MyNameIsNot · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_how-to-tell-people-about-the-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:e511fe67-0f12-4bd4-9eb1-4627666bc51dPost:8b751aff-e1e7-4275-bce3-58bd5cfe9015">Re: How to tell people about the registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Don't people always talk about at home receptions, though? </strong> I think you're still not supposed to register for gifts, though.
Posted by emeejeeayen[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, some people have at home receptions. In that case, you invite everyone to the destination wedding, but throw the party back home for the people that chose not to make the trip. It is not a consolation prize for people that aren't invited to the actual wedding.</div><div>
</div><div>Either way, a registry is probably not a good idea here. Even if you do create one, you shouldn't tell anyone about it unless they directly ask. </div>

sharontk · January 2013

IMO you shouldn’t need to register for it and an informal invitation without calling it as wedding reception should be fine.

MairePoppy · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_how-to-tell-people-about-the-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:e511fe67-0f12-4bd4-9eb1-4627666bc51dPost:69989078-6ffc-4a44-aa03-bd8261265c30">How to tell people about the registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi! My fiance and I are going to get married abroad (Italy) and will only be inviting family members to the wedding for a total of 10 people (counting us!). We want to throw a party for our friends back home to celebrate our wedding. My question is when we invite our friends to the party, (1) should this be a formal invitation like a wedding invitation or can something informal also be okay
<strong>The invitations should reflect the formality of the party. You are not inviting your guests to a wedding so skip the traditional wedding invitations.

</strong>and (2) do we need to say anything about a registry? We want to essentially tell our friends that it's not required for them to get us a gift but of course, we would appreciate any gifts.
<strong>Gifts and registries should not be mentioned on the invitations, at all.

</strong> And if this is the message, do we still register? Thank you!
<strong>Its fine to register, since there probably will be a few people that would like to buy you a wedding gift. You should not announce the registry, though. Only mention it if someone asks. If anyone arrives at your party with a gift, put it away somewhere so the other guests won't see it. You can open it privately. You wouldn't want the guest to think they erred in not bringing you something.</strong>
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