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Kids at our wedding, confused!

Megz824Megz824 member
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So, My fiance and I live in Austin, TX and are getting married in Harrisburg, PA in October of next year.  I've been a nanny for various families since January 2005, both in New Jersey and here in Austin.  I'm still very close with the families that I nannied for.  My fiance made it clear that he would prefer to not have children at the wedding and I agreed to it because..well, just because. However, after thinking about it in depth, I know that I definitely want to invite my current bosses and previous(3 families in all), but how do I invite them and not the kids?  I would love for the 6 kids to be there considering we were such an important part of each other's lives for a significant amount of time.  I would at least like to give my bosses the option of bringing the kids or not bringing them. 

What should I do?  If my fiance doesn't want kids at the wedding, is it ok to invite my bosses but make it clear that kids aren't invited?  And if that isn't ok, do I just not invite my bosses? I feel like I'm being pulled in two different directions. Help!

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Re: Kids at our wedding, confused!

  • mamie329mamie329 member
    Sixth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    How would your FI feel about doing a kids' room at the venue? Hire a caretaker and have coloring books and toys, etc. That way children are there, but not AT the wedding. That, however, doesn't solve the issue of kids at the ceremony.

    If your FI is really set on no kids period, just invite the bosses without children.
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  • telatovichtelatovich
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    edited December 2011

    What about at the church (or the ceremony venue) who have someone watch kids in a nursery or spare room?  Someone you know, trust, etc...  At the reception, we put out a basket full of dollar store toys and it REALLY kept kids busy!!  We had a bunch, and i didn't notice any of them.  And remember, if you invite your bosses kids, you pretty much have to invite all kids.  GL! 

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  • Megz824Megz824 member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, there really aren't any other kids TO invite. However, the youngest child would be 6, almost 7 and the others are from 7-15 and very well behaved so having somebody watch them isn't really an issue. My fiance just doesn't want to have to "watch himself" which I don't necessarily agree with because shouldn't he be conducting himself in a respectful manner anyway? :) I just don't know if I can invite my bosses, current and former, and not the kids..I would feel terrible!
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  • telatovichtelatovich
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    edited December 2011

    By the time in the night where your husband would be partying enough to have to "watch himself"  the parents of young kids will have taken them home.  I mean, you can invite your bosses without their kids... but if you want your bosses their, but they won't come without their kids - maybe they won't come, especially if they have to travel, you know?  I say invite them all as a family!

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