Responses to Save the Dates?

PJSPJS · May 2012

My fiance and I have been engaged for many years but just started wedding planning in January (for an October wedding). We sent the STDs a few days ago; by now, everyone should have received them. The only people who knew when we were getting married before receiving an STD were my two MOHs and another friend who's giving a reading as part of the ceremony. It should have come a surprise to everyone else, so I expected the phone to start ringing yesterday. Strangely, I haven't gotten any responses. I know that people do not have to reply to STDs, but I expected some calls or e-mails saying "Congratulations!" or "Looking forward to it!" etc. Everyone who was sent an STD has known both of us for years (and likes both of us!) so it's not as though people are frowning on the match.

Maybe I'm not being realistic: did YOU get any responses to your STDs or just silence until the invitation RSVP?

PJSPJS · May 2012

Yes, I know that people don't have to respond formally to a Save the Date. I was just surprised that no one even sent an e-mail saying "Great!" or "It's about time!" or "Yay!" and wondering what other people's experience with this has been.

LeiselEB · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_responses-to-save-the-dates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:4f07f7ee-3c9a-4661-ac30-1d96c57e35e0Post:8be49bf9-df5a-4d75-83c7-dbe65e8530c6">Re: Responses to Save the Dates?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, I know that people don't have to respond formally to a Save the Date. I was just surprised that no one even sent an e-mail saying "Great!" or "It's about time!" or "Yay!" and wondering what other people's experience with this has been.
Posted by PJSPJS[/QUOTE]

<div>We sent out save the dates several months after we got engaged, so by then most people knew of our engagement and had already congratulated us. Even so, I didn't even think that people would call or anything after receiving the save the date. </div><div>
</div><div>ETA: I misread one line - I see that not very many people knew of your engagement. Even so, I don't really think I'd expect people to start calling like crazy to say congratulations. I'm sure they'll congratulate you when they see you next.</div>

HobokensFury · May 2012

People aren't supposed to RSVP. To answer your question- Yes you are being unrealistic.

JaxInBlue · May 2012

We got a lot of "We got your STDs" the next time we saw people. The only e-mails or calls we got were from family who'd known about our engagement and date for a while. I didn't think anything of it. We've receive a couple of STDs for events and usually don't acknowledge them until we are talking to the sender about something else. I think our parents actually got more acknowledgement from various people than DH and I did.

CallMeBubbles · May 2012

Same as Jaclyne. The next time I saw my girlfriends they all told me they got the STDs and were excited. I only got one text right when they got it, and it was from my sister/MOH.

LDubHawksFan · May 2012

Same as PP. I got a quick gchat from my friend in NYC, an email from one friend who didn't think they would be invited, and a call from my dad saying he got it and didn't know what it was. lol I will admit, I was kind of like you though and was anxious to find out if people got them!

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