Ushers and Personal Attendants - HELP!

Re: Ushers and Personal Attendants - HELP!

• pooh8402

  

  December 2009 edited December 2009

  I don't think ushers are part of the WP. and wtf, I've never even heard of personal attendants. girls to help you get ready? that's your BMs. someone to run errands for you? get your stuff done earlier or enlist your coordinator.
  
  guest book attendant is part of the house party. also program attendant, cake cutter (if the caterer/baker/venue doesn't do this--my family enlists the aunts or cousins to do this). they get a corsage, but choose their own clothes and are not considered part of the WP.

  
  
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• banana468 member

  

  December 2009

  IMO, if you've already asked these people then yes, they're in the wedding party.  Our ushers were our GM so they performed the ushering task during the wedding but IMO, they're providing a service during the ceremony and you should treat them as WP when it comes to the benefits that your WP receives such as being invited to the RD.
  
  If you haven't already asked and if personal attendants aren't a very popular norm for your area then please don't.  They're viewed as the 'unpaid worker' for the day and that's not much of an honor.
  
  Also, please make sure that with whatever seating arrangement you choose, no one is split from his/her significant other at the reception.
  

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• SocialWorker2B member

  

  December 2009

  If I was asked to be apersonal attendant (not a BM or a MOH), I would b!tchslap the bride. But then again I've never heard of them before coming on TK.
  
  If I felt I needed a personal attendant, I would have hired someone! Geez, I can't believe people actually ask people to do that job AND I can't believe people actually accept!
  
  As for ushers, they could probably get smaller gifts than the GMs because they are doing less and spending less....unless their clothes have been mandated as well. However I don't see the need for ushers either. Wow, I'm difficult today. :-)
  
  Bottom line: anyone who helps should be given gifts. PAs should be paid and worshipped. Adults who help should probably ride in the limo (if they want or with their SOs if they don't want to). Little kids can probably go with parents. I would suggest not having a head table at all because I totally do not support separating the bridal party from their SOs. MH refused to sit apart from me an upcoming wedding where I am the MOH -- see people don't like it?!
  
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• liz745 member

  

  December 2009

  What the heck is a personal assistant. I would never give someone i cared about that title for being involved in my wedding. It sounds degrading. But anyways, my younger brother and his younger sister will be our ushers and we will get them something for helping out just like we will give our WP

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• thewayiam

  

  December 2009

  I've never understood why the groomsmen don't act as the ushers. Because I think it sends the message, "Hey, you didn't make the cut as a groomsman, so here, I'll throw you a bone. You're an usher." I've also never understood why anyone would think that it honours their friend to make them a PA. It's worse than the usher call. Hire a day-of coordinator! Or just DON'T DO IT.
  
  But if you've already made these decisions I would honour them as much as you honour the 'real' bridesmaids and ushers. If you can't fit them in your limo, make sure they have a ride. Thank them profusely in your program and speech, and buy them nice presents.
  
  That's my two cents.

  
  
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