The Plus One...

morenachica110 · April 2012

So I'm thinking about invites and RSVPs and addresses and got to thinking... how do I let people know that they get a plus one? We aren't doing meal choices since it will be a buffet and I can't financially do different types of RSVPs. Known couples (married or serious relationships that I know of) will have the names on the envelope. But we want to give our single people a plus one.

Ummm... how? lol!

BMcLeodTeam · April 2012

I just got one recently where there was a business card that stated that there is a plus one reserved seat for you, you can get business cards printed at VistaPrint.
Also if you write and guest on the envelopes, its the same as inviting the couple... you're still addressing it to 2 people.

ekk120 · April 2012

We're writing the person invited and Guest on the envelope. Im afraid Im going to get flamed from people on the e-board or somthing but I think that is technically how you do it. So they look like this:

John Doe and Guest

I think it looks a little funny, but I have recieved an invitation like this before so I think its how its supposed to be done

morenachica110 · April 2012

So if it's a single guy and no one's really sure if he's got a girlfriend, should I just address it to him? And then he wouldn't bring a plus one? I mean, I'm not excited about a "flavor of the month" type deal, but I wouldn't be upset if someone wanted to bring a date. Then how would I know the actual RSVP numbers? Ugh.... I hate this part.

smartlypretty · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_the-plus-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:e685a7bb-8d53-4105-8927-83e7a1f59178Post:43976e65-ef4b-4fbf-9f1e-09367e40ca25">Re: The Plus One...</a>:
[QUOTE]So if it's a single guy and no one's really sure if he's got a girlfriend, should I just address it to him? And then he wouldn't bring a plus one? I mean, I'm not excited about a "flavor of the month" type deal, but I wouldn't be upset if someone wanted to bring a date. Then how would I know the actual RSVP numbers? Ugh.... I hate this part.
Posted by morenachica110[/QUOTE]

All you need to do is put "plus guest" on the envelope and then he will RSVP for 2 instead of 1.

LawyerLover810 · April 2012

We are putting "Mr. Jon Doe and Guest". If they are in a relationship but not married I am putting "Mr Jon Doe and Ms. Jane Smith".

Hopefully on the RSVP the person will put "Mr. Jon Doe and guest" or Mr. Jon Doe and then write the guests name so you know.

ekk120 · April 2012

On the actual RSVP card, we added a line that says "_____ number attending" so that we know if the person we're inviting with a plus one is bringing a guest or not.

CowgirlK39 · April 2012

I just got my cousin's invite and it listed my FI's name on the envelope along with mine. I kinda got the impression that if its a serious relationship, you include the person's name, but if its like the "I guess you can bring a date" thing, then just "plus guest." One of my friends, who has been in a relationship with a guy for 8 years, gets very offended when she is referred to as a "guest" because she feels that people KNOW who she is and therefore she should be named. That would certainly be a case where I will name both people on the invite.

wineo929 · April 2012

I read on another board once that you could do something like, "We have reserved 1 seat in our honor" on the RSVP cards. Some people will RSVP more a plus one, even if the envelope isn't addressed to them!

mamameech · April 2012

Seeing as we are pretty much the last in our family and in our groups of friends to get married, we know everyone's name lol

And if we don't... they aren't invited to the dinner. We made that rule for ourselves because we have limited space and we only wanted the people we actually know to be there.

What I'm struggling with are couples who are separating or divorcing - how do you address those??? FI has a cousin who is separating from his wife (married like 20 years!) but they are both close to FI... and this is info provided through other sources than the actual couple. Do we play dumb and send the invite and let them hash it out?

SCogs18 · April 2012

If the person is in a relationship, I find out the name of their boyfriend/girlfriend and put it on the envelope. If they are single I just put "Jane Doe and guest" on the envelope.

gabriel0915 · April 2012

We are also doing the number of people in the reserved seats section. Our guest list is very strict because our venue is so small. We figure this is the easiet thing to do and people shoudln't have any questions about it.

naturenut7 · April 2012

In Response to Re:The Plus One...:[QUOTE]I just got my cousin's invite and it listed my FI's name on the envelope along with mine. I kinda got the impression that if its a serious relationship, you include the person's name, but if its like the quot;I guess you can bring a datequot; thing, then just quot;plus guest.quot; One of my friends, who has been in a relationship with a guy for 8 years, gets very offended when she is referred to as a quot;guestquot; because she feels that people KNOW who she is and therefore she should be named. That would certainly be a case where I will name both people on the invite. Posted by CowgirlK39[/QUOTE]
That's me! Haha the last 2 weddings my fiance and I have been invited to were his long time friends and both invites said Mr.... And guest. I was a little peeved since we've been together for over 8 years, and he's also a doctor now which they both knew. So double kick in the face for those. And like everyone else is saying, we're putting 'and guest' for the single people.

morenachica110 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_the-plus-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:e685a7bb-8d53-4105-8927-83e7a1f59178Post:0af42c32-7e65-4de0-ba13-cf6ffbb75489">Re: The Plus One...</a>:
[QUOTE]On the actual RSVP card, we added a line that says "_____ number attending" so that we know if the person we're inviting with a plus one is bringing a guest or not.
Posted by ekk120[/QUOTE]

<div>I may need to add this in. This way I know for sure if they're bringing someone. I just hope one of the GM doesn't bring his coke-head stripper "girlfriend/friend with benefits". <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /></div>

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