should i invite mom?

Re: should i invite mom?

• calliopeia2013 member

  

  July 2012

  I...feel like I need a lot more context to give a real answer to this.  Is this typical behavior for her?  Was her behavior unprovoked, or are you leaving out something you did to upset her?  Is there some sort of pre-existing financial tension going on between you two?

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• kmmssg mod

  

  July 2012

  What has your relationship been like with her in the long term?  Your post says that since you moved to NJ you didn't think you would attend the wedding.  Is that the only reason  you would miss your mother's wedding (in the beginning)?

  
  

  There is way too much missing for us to help you.  Has she always treated you like this?  Is she mentally ill?  Too many missing pieces.

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  July 2012

  I feel like we need the backstory. It sounds like you two had a strained relationship before the wedding stuff. In order for us to really give our opinions on what we would do, we need to know about your relationship with her prior to this and why you weren't originally planning on attending her wedding at all.

  
  
  
  
  

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  July 2012

  I feel like there is something missing from this story. Have you asked your grandmother for money in the past?
  
  There was no need for you to arrive 10 days ahead of the wedding, bridesmaid or not. If your mom or grandmother invited you to stay with them 2 days before the wedding, I don't understand why your dad, his mother and ffil encouraged you to arrive so early.
  
  Only you can decide if you want to have a relationship with your mother. If you do, send her a wedding invitation. If not - don't.

                     

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• zitiqueen member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_should-i-invite-mom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:8ca1024a-4d04-41e0-86ca-02cfc1b386ddPost:7ec3b4b1-1f64-4779-af9c-8bab518082c9">should i invite mom?</a>:
  [QUOTE] mom just got married saturday. i live in new jersey and the wedding was in alabama. i was supposed to be a bridesmaid. dress and shoes were already purchased by my grandparents. when i moved to new jersey i didnt think i was going to the wedding. but i met my fiance here and we thought it would be a good idea to go to the wedding so he could meet everyone. so we got a flight to alabama 10 days b4 the wedding. my grandparents had told me to come 2 days b4 the wedding, but i had my dad, his mother, my fiance, and his dad telling me tht was a rediculous idea. tht  i should be there at least a week in advance especially since i was a bridesmaid. needless to say she made us stay in a hotel instead of at her house. then she started sending me hateful txts. "i dont want you at my wedding. the only reason you want to come is to see how much your grandparents spend on it so you can get more. stay away" then she had lists of items bought for her wedding and the prices of them sent to my email. needless to say i spent a week crying. the question is should i be the better person and invite her to mine or save my wedding from being ruined by not inviting her?
  Posted by melizard48[/QUOTE]
  
  Was the plan always to stay at her house and then she changed her mind at the last minute?

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• melizard48

  

  July 2012

  first off you ppl hav no right to judge me and say im leaving swtuff out when im not. my mother and i hav never been close. she has made me live in a shelter b4. i came early bc we had nowhr to stay here. my mom isw bipoloar and she wnt get help for it bc she is a crazy b**ch. answer your question? you know i wouoldnt post on here if i knew it was goin to cause me more drama. i post bc i hneed help. not criticicism.

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