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ohnoitskaroljo · July 2012

I am unsure if we should bother with Ushers for our wedding. It's almost entirely my family and I want to have just a sign that says it's open seating and have the front 3 pews reserved for immediate family. Then I just want my brother to walk my mom down to her seat. Should we just not have ushers?

Then - I have 3 readers, one is my Godmother and I made her a nice corsage (both Godmothers get corsages), one is FI's Godfather and he has a boutineer, and then the other is my aunt - should I just give her a boutineer or make her a corsage? If I don't have ushers I have 2 spare boutineers in which case that'll save me from making anymore flower crap.

Then for gifts for my readers - they all like wine - does a nice bottle of wine sound like an adequate gift? If so any suggestions?

And do I get my brother a gift if all he's doing is walking my mother down the aisle? He'll be invited to the rehearsal and dinner... but he's been otherwise uninvolved in the whole process and I don't remember getting a gift from my SIL when I was in their wedding at all?

mbatzlaff · July 2012

My brother is our only usher. The groomsmen can also be around to help people find their seats. You don't need an usher, but if you have a large wedding it may be a good idea. I would get a corsage for your aunt since thats what the other readers will have. I don't think you need to get a gift if your brother is just walking your mother down the aisle. If he is going to be an usher, then technically he should get something. As for other gifts I think a bottle of wine sounds ok, but you know them best.

unicorntrees · July 2012

I always thought the groomsmen were the ushers.

So given that notion, that's probably what I'd do. Then that solves your next question with the boutineers.

If your readers like wine, then I think it's a good gift. It's not too big a gift, and not too small. I haven't figured out what we're giving our reader, so I could use suggestions there myself, haha.

I don't think you have to worry about getting your brother a gift. At least, that's what I would do.

Lobsters25 · July 2012

My uncle is our usher. I felt they were unnecessary because we're having a super small wedding, but my mom insisted saying that it made guests feel a little more at ease. I figured it wasn't a huge deal to ask someone to be one, and if the minimal effort helps the guests feel more comfortable, then why not?

Wine sounds fine, and no, you don't need something for your brother.

ohnoitskaroljo · July 2012

Thanks for the input everyone! I don't think I'll get my brother a gift - or if I do it'll be something really small. He's the type who would probably be like "uh wtf is this for?" anyway...

One reader is wearing a corsage (my Godmother), the other is wearing a boutineer. So I'd assume the aunt could wear a boutineer too? She did say she prefers pin ons because she thinks wrist corsages are too "prommy" and she mentioned that big corsages are clunky - so maybe she'd prefer a simple boutineer? I could spruce hers up a little bit?

KT020803 · July 2012

My brothers are ushers but it is a title with really no responsiblity. They are twins and my one brother joined the navy last year and my family misses him terribly since he is stationed in Hawaii. I want my brothers to both walk my mom to her seat. One on each side (mainly because I know my mom will love having a photo of that moment), but other than that since we are having a private ceremony it will be seat yourself

mattylovesmilly · July 2012

That's EXACTLY what my brothers are doing

I think it will be really cute.

RichNicci4211122 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_need-help-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:808008c0-c69f-436e-ae47-bdad67e8d6e9Post:8c51de50-c468-494d-9723-052c2fa056e4">Re: Need help!</a>:
[QUOTE]I always thought the groomsmen were the ushers.[/QUOTE]

That's what I thought too. I have 6 GM so I see no need for additional ones. I suppose it would be a good idea if you have a very small wedding party and a large guest list to "employ" some additional help, but in your case I think that the sign will be just fine.

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