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nervous about my grandmother

i2012doi2012do member
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in August 2012 Weddings
maybe this is an awful thing to say. But I am paranoid about my grandmother dying right before my wedding.
My grandmother isnt ding well but she has a tenedncy to have things happen before big events.
Ie hospitalized before my parents 25th anniversary party
hospitalized again when my niece was born

my grandmother is bipolar and a bit of drama queen. so psychologically (even if she doesnt know it)  it seems that she does things when something big is happening. (not to say my nana is planning to die before my wedding on purpose)Because of this ,we havent told her when the wedding is...
 This is horrible to say now because she is 85 and in a nursing home. She is unable to walk or eat and can barely speak- but her mind is 100% with it, and she can hear.

Sometimes I go there and they say she is doing awesome,sometimes i visit and they say she might only have a day or two left

I am really nervous now that we are getting close that she will pass away right before my wedding- and i dont think i can handle that and i am so worried about this.

this happened to my best friend and her grandmothers funeral was the day before her wedding.
I am so afriad of this happeneing. It put sucha  damper on things and she was a complete mess.
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  • mbatzlaffmbatzlaff
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    Sorry to hear about your grandmother. My grandmother, who recently passed, died less than a week before my cousin's wedding, so I can see why you're concerned. I wonder if on some level they know that everyone will be around family and well taken care of because of upcoming celebrations. Remember that you can't control when people die so the best you can do is try to take a deep breathe and accept it if it comes. If you want her to come to the wedding you may want to tell her the date, before it gets too close. I hope it all works out for you.

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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    I probably should have mentioned. She wouldn't be able to come to the wedding. She is on a feeding tube and oxygen and on medication to just make her comfortable.
    So there is no way she would be able to come, much less get dressed or be transported.

    I am just so worried about the stress this will put on my parents etc.
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  • spazticrexespazticrexe
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    I've had this concern a little with my FI's grandmother. Her health has deteriorated in recent months and we are inviting her of course since she's still able to be out and about - but it's getting harder and harder for her. She falls a lot, and it's my fear that she'll have a really bad fall close to the wedding and not be able to make it for one reason or another. The big problem is that her only caretakers are my FI's parents, so if she can't make it due to injury they might not be able to come and that would be terrible :(
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    Sorry you are in this situation. Just accept that it is out of your control and hope and pray for the best. I'll be keeping you and your grandma in my thoughts and prayers.
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