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Bachelorette Party Question

MacVMacV member
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I'm the MOH to my best friend and her wedding is in October.  She decided that she wanted her bachelorette party to be a trip to Disneyland, which is like the coolest thing ever, because she loves it there. Smile Here's my problem, though.  What are my duties for this? Are they the same as any other type of party or does it change when the party is at an amusement park?  I'm so thankful to have this website to rely on for all of my maid-of-honor duties!
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  • mgietler76mgietler76 member
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    edited December 2011
    First of all you have no MOH duties aside from showing up clean and sober in the dress and signing the marriage certificate.

    If you choose to go above and beyond that's awesome! The bride should not be dictating how she wants a party thrown in her honor to be, that's just rude. She can make suggestions and give ideas of what she would like to do but it's presumptuous of her to make all the decisions.

    But personally I think a trip to Disney is overly extravagant and definitely something you need to discuss with every single person you plan to invite to see if A. they can afford it B. they want to spend the money C. If they even want to go.

    Than you have to consider all the people who said no to any of those questions, will it be worth it to exclude all these people ( as I can't imagine many people wanting to do this) Would you or the bride be willing to sacrifice peoples feelings or cover their expenses?

    If (in the very highly unlikely event) all the people invited can and want to go, than treat it as the vacation it is and have fun.

    ETA I realized after posting that you live in CA so the costs are nearly as high as I expected if you lived in say NY LOL
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  • MacVMacV member
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    edited December 2011
    No no, she isn't presumptuous at all! Please don't get the impression of her, she just isn't the type to go bar hopping for a b-party.  She's willing to help pay for everything.  I just would like to know what all is "normal" for a MOH, I've never done it before and I've never heard stories of going to an amusement park for a bachelorette party, so I'm kind of lost..
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  • mkjpopmkjpop member
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    edited December 2011
    In my mind, a bachelorette is the bride getting together with the bridal party and other close friends and having a great time. That "great time" can be at a restaurant, at her house, at a bar crawl, you name it. In terms of making it special, maybe you could get her a (family-friendly... no penises!) sash to wear. Ordinarily I'd recommend a tiara or "bride" cap, but those might fall off on a ride.

    Also, maybe you should scout out places ahead of time - either with your bride or not - to figure out where you could eat. Can you make meal reservations at Disney? A nice dinner to end the day would be really fun. And figure out if there will be a fireworks show. Also, I know at Disney World in FL they have lots of "interactive" things like riding on the bee from Honey I Shrunk the Kids (can you tell I was last there 15 years ago?) ... maybe try to get her to be selected for those things.

    I agree with the other posters that a Disney trip seems over the top... but I'm coming from the perspective where you have to hop on a plane for 3 hours to get there. It seems like you're a lot closer, but try to keep everyone's budgets in mind. :-)
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  • shaylin1001shaylin1001
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    edited December 2011
    If you're close to Disney Land, that's kind of awesome.
    Keep in mind, you don't HAVE to do anything, but if you want to coordinate a group trip to Disney Land for the bride, that's also kind of awesome.
    If you're happy/able to, after you come up with a guest list, and confirm how many people are attending/what they're able to chip in, set a date and go have a whole bunch of fun. Take plenty of pictures.
    I agree with PP in terms of a nice dinner to end the day. Also, if your friend is okay with a lot of strangers congratulating her, I'd make/buy her a sash or something to identify her as the bride-to-be. (If I were the MOH, I would consider making dorky matching t-shirts for everyone - inexpensive DIY with fabric paint/pens...that way you're identified as a group. Disney tends to give special attention to people who are involved in a "Celebration" of any kind, plus, it's something everyone can keep.)
    The most important thing is that all of you have fun! (But don't strain yourself or your finances to do so.)
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  • MacVMacV member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you all soo much for the ideas! We're about 45 minutes outside of Disneyland so the only thing to worry about is 5 dollar a gallon gas prices.. :P The bride has her own season pass there.. I was thinking of buying tote bags that go with the theme of the reception to carry there (and for the wedding) but tshirts sound way cooler!
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  • brocktilfordbrocktilford member
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    edited December 2011
    What Happens In Vegas Stays In Vegas!

    Who said the girls can't have some fun along with the fellas!?
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