Groomzilla

Re: Groomzilla

• DG1 member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_groomzilla?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:0137f1f2-c0f3-4863-9fed-be86f2594f57Post:3f8a4b71-a8fa-4b64-8fe6-44fb7f23c886">Groomzilla</a>:
  [QUOTE]I dont understand what is the matter with my groom! Dont most grroms just show up to the wedding and be happy. My groom is mad about our venue, which I asked him many times if this was what he wanted, then he's pissed off about the bridesmaid dresses (he wanted burnt orange and I wanted brown), he doenst like the centerpieces, and he doesnt want to do engagment pictures (he doesnt understand why we need to do them.) I try to find ways to compromise both of our ideas and he just keeps saying "i dont care", when really he does care because he has exploded about ceratin topics. It is making me not want to get married at all. If anyone has any ideas on how we can survive engagement please HELP!
  Posted by k_engman89[/QUOTE]
  
  I see some red flags here, and it's not about the wedding.  For one thing, it sounds like he has a bit of an anger problem if he is "exploding" over stupid stuff like centerpieces and BM dress colors. 
  
  For another, you two aren't communicating very well.  If he says he doesn't care when he does, then "explodes," then that's a big problem.
  
  "What do you want for dinner, honey?"
  "I don't care."
  ...
  "WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU EVER DREAM OF SERVING MASHED POTATOES ON A TUESDAY?!!" 
  
  At the very least, it sounds like something else is bothering him and he's taking it out on you (again, not a good sign).  At worst, he really doesn't want to get married (ever? yet? to you?) and instead of using his big boy words, he's just throwing fits about the details.
  
  I'd take some time and think about what's really going on.  Definitely try to discuss it with him - calmly.  And if he is dismissive, take that as another sign.

  
  

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• mysticl member

  

  September 2010

  I agree with PP that there seems to be more going on here.  My FI does care about that stuff to a point.  Like he wanted to see the BM dresses and colors just to make sure he didn't hate them.  The venue was important to him and we found one that the minute we saw it we both knew was where we were having the reception.  None of it is worth exploding over.
  
  Though, I do have to say I'm with your FI on the topic of "why you need engagement pics?"  Because seriously you don't need them you want them.  Try that approach, that it is something that you really want and why you want it.  Maybe he will be more understanding.   Sometimes changing just one word can make all the difference when talking to someone. 
  

  

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