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Sending Late Invitations?
Help! Need advice...
My wedding is October 2nd.
We invited 125 people (including us) and guarraunteed 100 people for the reception. We figured that this was more than enough - but my brother has gotten in a fight with my parents, and he told us today that his entire family (7 people) is now not coming to the wedding.
We have realized that we may not meet our minimum number because of this. It is also making a somewhat lopsided wedding - I invited 46 people, 2 of whom I knew were not coming, and he invited 77 - very lopsided.
I have extra invitations, but they would be going out very late - reply requested by September 10th on the RSVP cards. Our original invitations were sent a month ago.
Should I send out a few extra invites, or avoid the ettiquette problem and accept that we may have less than 100 people?
Thanks!
My wedding is October 2nd.
We invited 125 people (including us) and guarraunteed 100 people for the reception. We figured that this was more than enough - but my brother has gotten in a fight with my parents, and he told us today that his entire family (7 people) is now not coming to the wedding.
We have realized that we may not meet our minimum number because of this. It is also making a somewhat lopsided wedding - I invited 46 people, 2 of whom I knew were not coming, and he invited 77 - very lopsided.
I have extra invitations, but they would be going out very late - reply requested by September 10th on the RSVP cards. Our original invitations were sent a month ago.
Should I send out a few extra invites, or avoid the ettiquette problem and accept that we may have less than 100 people?
Thanks!
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Re: Sending Late Invitations?
Do you think you'll make up with your brother before the wedding? You have some time. That would be really sad of him to miss your wedding. And you wouldn't want to replace his seats in case he decides to come later on.
i do hope that you and brother make up before the wedding though.
ETA
my wedding is 10-10 and my rsvp date is 9-10 and i still have a stack of invitations that i am waiting on addresses for.
I thought sending out invitations at this point would look tacky, too...I think I'm stuck...
[QUOTE]i dont think its too late for Blisters. but Id be concerned with people who know eachother, id hate for someone to mention getting their invite back in august when some people arent getting theirs til sept. i do hope that you and brother make up before the wedding though. ETA <strong>my wedding is 10-10 and my rsvp date is 9-10</strong> and i still have a stack of invitations that i am waiting on addresses for.
Posted by HisCB[/QUOTE]
That's in 13 days. That just screams B list, even if you were to get them in the mail today. Why not just call them at this point? Sheesh.
Infertile, living childfree, advocating like a BOSS
Infertile, living childfree, advocating like a BOSS
As for things being lopsided...I'm having 8 people coming on my side. FI has 50. His family is a lot bigger than mine and live closer to the venue. It doesn't matter how many are on each side as long as you have the people you care about there.
[QUOTE]i dont think its too late for Blisters. but Id be concerned with people who know eachother, id hate for someone to mention getting their invite back in august when some people arent gett<strong>ing theirs til sept. i do hope that you and brother make up before the wedding though. ETA my wedding is 10-10 and my rsvp date is 9-10 and i still have a stack of invitations that i am waiting on addresses for.</strong>
Posted by HisCB[/QUOTE]
That's terrible
I don't know if this applies in your situtation.......but our original guest list was about 250 people for a venue that can only hold 175. So we cut it down to about 209, and made a small B-list of people that we didn't want to completely not invite. However, our response date is 9/5 (wedding 10/3) and we realized we're really not going to get enough No's before it's really too late to send the "b-list" out even though they would never know they were on a blist (besides the lateness) because they don't know anyone who already got an invite.
So we scrapped the b-list but since our list was so large to begin wtih we were pretty strict about the plus one policy (guests only got one if they wouldn't know anyone or were engaged/married). We're still expecting a lot more no's from distant family so after the rsvps are all in, if we're way under we're going to just call friends that didn't get a plus one and tell them they could bring a guest if they'd like.
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We should be close to the minimum; with the potential responses that are left we could hit 107, but we invited about five people with guests that may not bring one - wife is temporarily in another state far away, etc. So we should be close, hopefully.
We don't have a space problem - our venue can actually fit a lot more people than we are inviting, which is why we're having some issues with a minimum. We would have invited more people - I thought there would be family tension, but not to the point that my brother's entire family just wouldn't show up!
Thanks, everyone!
[QUOTE]we have requested all of their addresses from them. they knew they were invited, and no-one in the stack would even care. but yes, we need to get them out soon.
Posted by HisCB[/QUOTE]
That doesn't make it any better. They can "know" they were invited, but if they don't get an invite, they may think you were just blowing smoke up their asses like "oh, sure you can come to our wedding. ::wink wink::" Call these poor people and verbally invite them and get their address at the same time so you can send the invitation to confirm the verbal information.
Infertile, living childfree, advocating like a BOSS