Bridal shower question

Kfudge0714 · January 2012

So my BMs are getting together this coming weekend to discuss my bridal shower! I am totally fine with having a bridal shower and not a couple shower because FI wouldn't really be in to it. However, I am thinking that I want him to show up when it's time to open gifts. After all the gifts are for the both of us not just me and I like that he would be there to thank everyone in person (of course we will still send out TY cards). Is anyone else doing this? Would this be ok? Has anyone seen this done before?

Zimsgirl26 · January 2012

I would just have you at the shower. Have your time with your girls and I think he'd feel awkward (my FI would at least) to just go to open gifts

niecie_jeff · January 2012

My mom is wanting my FI to do this, however, he said he thinks he would feel weird being the only guy there, even if just to open giftss. I this he will show up right before everyone leave to help load everything in to our cars though.

chelseakopperud · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I would just have you at the shower. Have your time with your girls and I think he'd feel awkward (my FI would at least) to just go to open gifts
Posted by Zimsgirl26[/QUOTE]

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Carebear62584 · January 2012

My friend did a coed shower and it was extremely awkward because there were like 5 males there. Mine is a women's only shower but FI will probably drop me off and pick me up. Although, I know when and where it is and I want to be there as guests arrive so he may not even have to bring me. I may just drive myself or have my mom or MOH come pick me up.

drewmw · January 2012

I have been to showers where the groom showed up just after the gifts were open, so he could say hi to everyone, meet some people he might not know before the wedding, and help load the gifts into the car. I agree that it might be kind of awkward (for him and maybe for some guests) if he just showed up to open presents...

MMRoberts11 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:58b6caa5-80ed-4baf-b9c7-0d6b44ff3930Post:284d30cd-56f4-4184-abb0-58be6344fe07">Re: Bridal shower question</a>:
[QUOTE]I have been to showers where the groom showed up just after the gifts were open, so he could say hi to everyone, meet some people he might not know before the wedding, and help load the gifts into the car. I agree that it might be kind of awkward (for him and maybe for some guests) if he just showed up to open presents...
Posted by drewmw[/QUOTE]

Agreed. We are thinking of having my FI show up at the end to say hi and load the car.

nanciee220 · January 2012

I went to a shower last year where we played games and everything with the girls..it started at about 5 or 6...then at 8, the groom and his friends came...along with some of the bride's guy friends. It actually ended up being a little party but it was fun. I don't think it was really awkward, plus it helped the bride & grooms friends bond a little before the wedding.

goodine11 · January 2012

yeah he may feel weird. I have seen the FI drop off and pick up the Bride from the shower. I thought that was cute. But he didn't come in , the only people that saw him is the ones that help put gifts in the car.

calisel · January 2012

In all the family bridal showers that I have been to, the FI comes just when the gifts are about to be opened and gives the bride to be roses. At that point he stays and opens gifts with her. I do not think that it is wrong for him to be there. I understand how your FI feels about not wanting to go to the whole thing, mine wouldn't either. Getting him to show up when I open gifts is like pulling teeth for him.

Ash61612 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:58b6caa5-80ed-4baf-b9c7-0d6b44ff3930Post:2bb1147c-4cf8-49a2-beff-ab2efb42e779">Re: Bridal shower question</a>:
[QUOTE]My mom is wanting my FI to do this, however, he said he thinks he would feel weird being the only guy there, even if just to open giftss. I this he will show up right before everyone leave to help load everything in to our cars though.
Posted by niecie_jeff[/QUOTE]

This is kinda what we are doing. FI will come towards the end of the shower so he can see the gifts and what we got. He doesn't want to be there for the entire shower and I don't want him to feel uncomfortable

mrspatnou · January 2012

We are not sure what we are doing yet (no one said anything about a bridal shower), but my friend who is getting married st. Patrick's Day had hers in one room of a place and her FI had his own guy party in another room and he just came in for presents and to load the car.

myfeverplays · January 2012

I had never been to any showers where the groom to be was there. He usually came at the end as the shower was ending to say hello and help load the gifts into the car, lol. That is until I dated FI. Every shower I have gone to for his side of the family the groom was at the entier shower and it was VERY awkward.

FI told me he didn't want to come until the end and always thought it was weird when I came home from showers telling him cousins were the entire time.

LoveYouB · January 2012

My FI is showing up at the very end (after gifts are opened) basically just to see everyone while we're all together.

MIZCNEL · January 2012

No my FI is not into all of that "girlie stuff" so he'll be somewhere looking a a game or something manly. My girls are kind of 'kinky" and will be doing crazy stuff and I can see no my FMIL will be ten shades of Red lol I can't wait ! My shower is April 21st !

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