Confession Thursday

Johnsonk313 · May 2012

Good morning ladies!

It's confession Thursday!

My confession is, one of the things I am most worried about with this marriage is being a Step-mom. I ADORE FSS but there is always such a fine line you have to walk with step-parenting. It has already been sooo hard, that sometimes the thought of doing it for the next 12 years or so is extra terrifying. It also doesn't help that his mom is BSC.

Now you go...

kwortman80 · May 2012

confession - I'm a little nervous about my parents finding out about FI's parents buying my wedding dress and (expensive) jewelry. I don't want my parents to feel bad. It's not their style to spend a lot of money on aesthetics, and I know that. The women on FI's side are all fancy dresses and jewelry, and his mom wants to buy me some. Among other reasons, she doesn't want there to be the appearance of favorites when she buys that sort of thing for FBIL's fiancee. Most of it is cultural - FI's family is Albanian, and yeah, showy showy is the name of the game.

confession #2, but not really a confession at all - I wish there were a board, or some way to find Albanian ladies or ladies with future in-laws that are Albanian. We aren't doing most of the wedding-related traditions and parties, but it would still be nice to talk to people whose parents/in-laws have similar expectations to FI's. It's wayyy different from 'traditional' US wedding customs.

Nikki71 · May 2012

Confession: I eat worse when FI isn't around. He NEVER pressures me to be healthy or lose weight, but I feel more guilty about eating bad if he's around, so I don't do it (as much). Then, if he's gone for an evening or out of town for work... I eat too much bad food!

CowgirlK39 · May 2012

I confess that, even after reading all the replies to my BM drama post, I am starting to think that the "friendship-ending move" may just be a matter of time. I will give her this last chance to get her crap together, but I think the writing has been on the wall for a long time and I didn't want ot admit it. She has repeatedly mocked my political views, lifestyle, and job situation. I keep telling myself that we are still friends and that she's just in a rough patch but its too hard to ignore any longer. I also confess that I feel bad for MOH, who is very close with both of us. She keeps trying to pacify everything but this is just too much.

morenachica110 · May 2012

I confess that I'm starting to try to half-asss things to get them done. I'm cutting a lot of corners because I'm done obesseing over this and that. Example: our invites. Originally wanted pocketfolds with a cute way to tie them up. Now, we're going to tie up everything neatly and place it in the envelope. I don't think it would look bad and, frankly, I'm kind of over invites. They're garbage anyways.

Ugh... and I have about a katrillion things to do and phone calls to make. Half of them I don't even know what to say. I think my brain's about to 'splode.

volleygurl0306 · May 2012

Confession #1- I'm stressed beyond belief about money. FI just started working again so we will start being a 2 income house hold again but we have a lot to pay for and are had to tap into our wedding fund to pay bills the 8 weeks that FI was unemployed. We have less in the account than we did 2 months ago and with only about 4 months left if we don't pinch pennies we are going to rack up debt paying for the wedding. TO make it worse, we haven't had our own place in almost a year so we don't even have a rent/electric/cable/water bill right now and are still struggling but are at our wits end living in my parents house.

Confession #2- I've been beyond exhausted. I have had issues with extreme exhaustion before and it seems not to be as extreme but I don't feel like doing anything social because of it. My greatest fear with exhaustion isn't so much my health (I go to the doctor regularly and everything is okay)....it is when we want to have a family. If I'm tired going to work and school and taking care of just FI and me, how will I stay awake to handle a baby! It is something I want badly but the physical aspects of motherhood (and that labor scares the crap outta me) seem overwhelming and make me keep wanting to stall us starting a family.

CowgirlK39 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:26f94314-0a39-4862-9c27-d08d517fd1faPost:2d3f3098-761c-4d12-9a4d-b112481de9e4">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession #1- I'm stressed beyond belief about money. FI just started working again so we will start being a 2 income house hold again but we have a lot to pay for and are had to tap into our wedding fund to pay bills the 8 weeks that FI was unemployed. We have less in the account than we did 2 months ago and with only about 4 months left if we don't pinch pennies we are going to rack up debt paying for the wedding. TO make it worse, we haven't had our own place in almost a year so we don't even have a rent/electric/cable/water bill right now and are still struggling but are at our wits end living in my parents house. Confession #2- I've been beyond exhausted. I have had issues with extreme exhaustion before and it seems not to be as extreme but I don't feel like doing anything social because of it. My greatest fear with exhaustion isn't so much my health (I go to the doctor regularly and everything is okay)....it is when we want to have a family. If I'm tired going to work and school and taking care of just FI and me, how will I stay awake to handle a baby! <strong>It is something I want badly but the physical aspects of motherhood (and that labor scares the crap outta me) seem overwhelming and make me keep wanting to stall us starting a family.
</strong>Posted by volleygurl0306[/QUOTE]

I used to think the same thing, but when I started working on the farm and watched cows give birth to 95lb bull calves with no assistance, I realized that we humans have it easy. Or just watch 16 and Pregnant and remind yourself if a kid can do it, so can you. :p

Kello4221 · May 2012

I confess that I kinda don't even want to go to the bachelorette party I'm attending this weekend. It's for one of my bridesmaids who is getting married in June, so I should be excited but I'm not.

It's going to an expensive weekend, and last night she told me I have to hem off the train of my dress now (we"ve had the dresses for over a month and its less three weeks til her wedding) so I'm annoyed. I'm sure I'll forget things and be stressed the few weeks before the wedding but she doesn't have a job (and isn't looking), so wedding planning is her job. I may be being a little resentful about that, but she also cancelled on me a few weeks ago, it was an event that I set up specifically for her because all of my other bridesmaids are high school friends and I wanted her to meet them. We had it on the calendar for two weeks and then she cancelled the day of because drama.

I actually feel a little better writing that all down in a safe place.

volleygurl0306 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:26f94314-0a39-4862-9c27-d08d517fd1faPost:8d6f60a9-c0f3-4904-b404-8daff79ce67c">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confession Thursday : I used to think the same thing, but when I started working on the farm and watched cows give birth to 95lb bull calves with no assistance, I realized that we humans have it easy. Or just watch 16 and Pregnant and remind yourself if a kid can do it, so can you. :p
Posted by CowgirlK39[/QUOTE]

Hahahaha thank you for that! I have a low pain tolerance but at least I'm not as whiny as them and have a way more supportive man lol. I have a big head so I'm hoping our kids just get FI's smaller head (and somehow neither of our broad shoulders).

lnhassel · May 2012

Confession #1: We had our tasting today and all of the food was wonderful. But now I am starting to freak out a bit about the financial aspect of it all. We did not really talk cost of things while we were there as the cost of the food was provided on the menu we chose from but I guess it is the fact that the venue is now going to prepare an invoice of everything on top of our "minimum food costs" which I know is going to be extremely high. I mentally prepared myself for it but now I am dreading the receipt of that email. On top of that both of our parents are contributing less than what they originally said they would (dont get me wrong we are greatful for what they can contribute however we would have made a few different decisions if we knew we would be working with less funds).

Confession #2: I just found out (literally about 10 minutes ago) that my cousin who recently got married in November (and was 5 months pregnant at the time) intentionally stopped taking birth control because she found out her now husband was thinking of breaking up with her and she thought a baby would fix the situation. It frustrates me to no end that anyone would do this to someone and actually think that it would "fix" anything. I feel sorry for the child that was now brought into this world to "fix" his parents relationship and sincerely hope for the sake of him that they work their issues out at least enough to raise the child properly either together or separate. I seriously just want to shake her and ask her what she was thinking.

volleygurl0306 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:26f94314-0a39-4862-9c27-d08d517fd1faPost:113f4a2f-bafd-450a-8dc6-f2d94bf0f40f">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession #1: We had our tasting today and all of the food was wonderful. But now I am starting to freak out a bit about the financial aspect of it all. We did not really talk cost of things while we were there as the cost of the food was provided on the menu we chose from but I guess it is the fact that the venue is now going to prepare an invoice of everything on top of our "minimum food costs" which I know is going to be extremely high. I mentally prepared myself for it but now I am dreading the receipt of that email. On top of that both of our parents are contributing less than what they originally said they would (dont get me wrong we are greatful for what they can contribute however we would have made a few different decisions if we knew we would be working with less funds). <strong>Confession #2: I just found out (literally about 10 minutes ago) that my cousin who recently got married in November (and was 5 months pregnant at the time) intentionally stopped taking birth control because she found out her now husband was thinking of breaking up with her and she thought a baby would fix the situation. It frustrates me to no end that anyone would do this to someone and actually think that it would "fix" anything. I feel sorry for the child that was now brought into this world to "fix" his parents relationship and sincerely hope for the sake of him that they work their issues out at least enough to raise the child properly either together or separate. I seriously just want to shake her and ask her what she was thinking.
Posted by lnhassel[/QUOTE]

</strong>This is so sad. I hope they work things out and (or at least) give their child a loving home! And I get your freak out over the money. I keep thinking of that thousands of dollar invoice in 4 months as some distant issue. I probably should start bracing now!

sparent2010 · May 2012

I want to buy things for the house, but we need to save up for the wedding. I am also currently really hating my job.

jessa1228 · May 2012

I confess that I read all these posts about how everyone has all these projects to do for the wedding and it's becoming so overwhelming for them, and then I look at myself and how I haven't accomplished anything WR in 2 weeks, and I almost think there's something wrong with me. But I just don't feel like there's anything for me to do right now. I have my cake tasting on Saturday and I'm currently looking into invitations, but that's about it. I'm seriously wondering if you girls are stressing yourselves out unnecessarily, or that I'm just being way too lackadaisical with everything and it's going to come back and bite me in the ass when, 1 month out from the wedding, I'm struggling to get 2832 things done.

jodies68131 · May 2012

I really, really, really want to walk out of my job and never look back. I am so miserable here that it is making me crazy, but I know that there is no way I can walk out of a good paying job and leave my FI to pay the mortgage and all of the bills on top of supporting my two kids, oh and that small little detail of our wedding.

mtnbrooke7 · May 2012

It took me a long time to get my savings account built up a little, and it seriously stresses me out to see huge chunks of it disappear. I keep trying to remind myself that I'm not going to be living on just my meager teacher salary anymore...FI makes a lot more than me. But I am so used to pinching pennies, it's very stressful to spend like I have been on things for the wedding.

vickel08 · May 2012

Confession #1: I still have not put my save the dates out. They are in my car waiting to be mailed off, just need stamps. (Small, I know)

Confession #2 I am worried about working to hard to pay for the wedding. I picked up a second job just for the wedding. My first job is super stressful and the second job makes me extremely tired; however, we are not using credit cards to pay for anything and we refuse to take out of our primary income for the wedding. I need to work more hours since I took the entire month of August off from my second job (to attend other weddings, bridal shower, family reunion), but I get so tired and cranky when I go in. I need a vacation!

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