Vent

Re: Vent

• AJuliaNJ member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to Re:Vent:[QUOTE]Ok now I'm a little frustrated.nbsp;I mentioned in a PP that my FSIL told me last week that she may want to drop out of the WP. I told her that was completely fine, we would be happy to have her there as a guest. This was Wednesday. She said she has rescheduled her appt to look at BM dresses for Friday, and she was going to "process" in the meantime and figure out what she wanted to do. I haven't heard anything else from her. I mean, either she kept the appt or she didn't, right? Is it too much to ask that she just let me know either way what she wants to do?nbsp;My FI is angry, and he asked me not to say anything to his mother because she would "flip out" on his sister. So what am I supposed to say when FMIL asks me if FSIL got her dress yet? Which she willI don't like being left hanging. Should I ask FI to call his sister and find out? Or leave it alone and assume she has taken herself out? Posted by Salsera29[/QUOTE]
  
  I'd send a quick text to FSIL saying how did everything go w the dress? I feel like it would make it less of a big thing if you send a text versus calling.
  
  If FMIL asks, I'd say "you know, I've been so busy this week I haven't had a chance to ask her. Ill have to call her later in the week when things calm down."

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• AddieCake member

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  I agree with Lia. Leave it alone, and leave her alone. I imagine she will eventually contact you about it. If your fiance's mother asks, just tell her you don't know and she will have to ask her daughter. 

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• kmmssg mod

  

  March 2013

  Agree with Lia - just take yourself out of the middle here.  It isn't your problem to take all of that on.  If FMIL asks, just tell her you haven't heard yet.

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• Salsera29 member

  

  March 2013

  Ok thanks ladies. 

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• Peledreamsofrain member

  

  March 2013

  Yeah avoid this mess like the plague. Don't press FSIL, and if FMIL starts gwtting pushy and nosy, politely defer her to her own daughter for information.

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• Salsera29 member

  

  March 2013

  Update: FI told FMIL what's going on, so at least I don't have to worry about that. 

  
  

  
  

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• NYCMercedes member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_vent-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:0c37e959-cd6e-4533-8178-781c917573ccPost:e5f613a3-abd9-4571-9a64-3d13a6e26e6c">Re: Vent</a>:
  [QUOTE]Update: FI told FMIL what's going on, so at least I don't have to worry about that. 
  Posted by Salsera29[/QUOTE]
  
  Did she freak out? Did FSIL keep the appointment?

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• Salsera29 member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_vent-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0c37e959-cd6e-4533-8178-781c917573ccPost:891834b0-fd0b-4d81-8455-c4249a74d706">Re: Vent</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vent : Did she freak out? Did FSIL keep the appointment?
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  <div>I wasn't there so I don't know exactly, but it didn't sound like she freaked out. She did say she would be furious if FSIL doesn't come to the wedding at all, but I don't think that's going to be an issue. Both FI and FMIL seem to be annoyed but not very suprised. It seems like this sort of behavior isn't toally beyond the norm for her. </div><div>
  </div><div>I don't know if she kept the appointment, I still haven't heard anything from her. I'm going to assume she didn't, because I think if she had gone and gotten a dress she would have told me. At this point I'm just going to assume she's out until/unless she tells me otherwise. </div><div>
  </div><div>I think it's a little inconsiderate so say you'll be a bridesmaid a year before the wedding (I know I asked too early, I didn't know better at the time) and then 5 month before say you might not want to be, and then never give a definitive answer. </div><div>
  </div><div>I'll update again if anything happens. </div>

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• MsYeck member

  

  March 2013

  You could just ask the bridal salon she had the apt at

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