It's a little long but please read and tell me what you would do...
So my one bridesmaid has been high maintenance--"I can't have an updo, it makes my head hurt...", "can I have my own stylist do my hair (an a hour and half away) and just show up in time for pictures?" I have been fairly accommodating of these requests even though I wanted to tell her no.
She skipped the bachelorette party and left the bridal shower early because she "had to write a paper for class."
Yesterday I sent all the girls a thank-you email (I'll still send proper cards as well) for the bach. party and shower and sent an updated wedding timeline (it's less than 6 weeks away now). It included a mention of taking pics at 1 outside for a few hours.
She wrote back and said, "if there's any way to reduce sun exposure between 1 and 3pm, that would be greatly appreciated" as she doesn't want to get sunscreen on her dress. She also felt the wedding wouldn't be fun if we all were burned and sweaty. She mentioned that she knew she sounded whiny but decided to risk potentially making me angry anyway.
Thoughts? I am so stressed out over this girl being a pain! My other girls say I should tell her to put on her big girl panties and get over it already....
I am trying to decide whether to call her or email to say that if she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid, she can back out and I won't be offended, as it's clearly stressing her out. I also intend to tell her that her selfish requests are crossing the line--it's OUR wedding and why would I move my pictures indoors or change the time because SHE doesn't want to get burned? (I'll be wearing sunscreen, and she should too...I just don't know why every single thing is such a huge fuss with her!)
So, call or email? If I call, she might insist she still wants to be a bridesmaid. If I email, maybe she'll think about it and decide not to be. I don't want to lose our friendship over this but I cannot have her at my wedding annoying the hell out of me and with a puss on her face all day because she had to stand in the sun for some pictures.