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Groom and Groomsman Bout. Question

mlynn1223mlynn1223
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My fiance wanted his groomsman to wear a pocket square instead of a bouts.  He will have the same pocket square and a bout.  The other men (fathers, grandfathers, ushers, etc.) will have a bout. but no square (they will also be in their own suits not tuxes).  My FMIL says that "people are going to think you could not afford bouts."  Do we have to put bouts on all of the men?  She is recommending we do both bouts and squares.  Thoughts?  

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  • kateguess22kateguess22 member
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    This is REALLY popular these days. Since your FMIL is of an older generation she may just not be up on her current trends. (Do not tell her this! LOL)

    My biggest concern is that she is worried that people will think that you could not afford bouts. Going with pocket squares instead of bouts will certainly cut down on cost, but cutting down on costs on something doesn't mean that you can't afford it. You could be spending that money elsewhere in your wedding or simply just saving the money. What is wrong with that?

    She's probably never seen a wedding where the groomsmen didn't wear bouts. That doesn't mean that you can't do it. Maybe send her some photos from other weddings that did this. By the way, I love this idea.

    My other concern is how it will look to have both a pocket square and a bout. Try it out first to make sure it doesn't look too busy. You should always feel good when you save money in any area of your wedding, regardless of your budget! I don't like the idea of spending money just to spend money.
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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
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    We did pocket squares. I don't think men really care much about flowers on their lapel quite honestly... (generalizing of course.. I'm sure some do) 
    It would NEVER cross my mind to think that it was a cheap route or anything. That wasn't a reason that we went with the squares at all. 
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  • TheDoctor10TheDoctor10
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    You can definitely wear both a lapel flower and pocket square at the same time. Just keep them understated and classic.

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  • Sydney91Sydney91 member
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    save the money. I didn't know this was accepted, but now I don't think I will be needing bouts for the boys (have to run this idea by fiance first).
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  • Sydney91Sydney91 member
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    save the money. I didn't know this was accepted, but now I don't think I will be needing bouts for the boys (have to run this idea by fiance first).
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  • Sydney91Sydney91 member
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    save the money. I didn't know this was accepted, but now I don't think I will be needing bouts for the boys (have to run this idea by fiance first).
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  • snuff9861snuff9861 member
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    We're not having bouts, I personally dont like the way they look and my F thinks flowers are dumb..so ergo we're just having pocket squares.
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  • mlynn1223mlynn1223
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    Thank you for all the advice!  It is nice to have a man's opinion as well :)  Given that it is my fiance's mother, I will let him make the call.  I will support him either way.  I do no think it will look cheap if we do not do them, nor do I think they will look to busy if we do (we have simple flowers).  They are his groomsman and it was his idea not to have them.  I will show him the pictures first though and let him go from there.  
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