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Best Man's wife is at it AGAIN (long vent)

526SadieSadie526SadieSadie
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So, you might remember me bitching a few months ago that the Best Man's wife was trying to take over the planning and got really offended when I politely (seriously, I was truly polite) declined her offer to plan an engagement party, shower and bachelorette party for me.  Please Note: while I like her, she isn't a bridesmaid. It was never mentioned that she was in contention to be a bridesmaid because I was never going to ask her.  I have bridesmaids and they were not willing to accept her help because they felt like she was stepping on their toes, which I agreed with.

Well today is the last day to RSVP for the shower my mom and FMIL are hosting and guess who the last person to RSVP is?  I thought maybe she had RSVP'd with my FMIL, but no.  I asked Dan if he knew what was up and he said she was being a big baby and didn't want to come to the shower because she didn't think I liked her.  I called her this morning and left her a message saying (very sincerely) that if I didn't like her, she wouldn't have been invited.  If she's uncomfortable with the idea of not knowing anyone there but me, that's one thing, I couldn't be mad at her for that, but I told her she would be very welcome if she decided to come.  And in addition to that my MOH would be calling her in the next few days to invite her to the Bachelorette party. 

Am I doing too much?  I mean, I'm not going to give her any more attention to convince her that I like her.  If she comes, great, I hope she has fun, but if she doesn't, I'm not going to go out of my way anymore.  This whole thing is just ridic.
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  • eastunder1eastunder1
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    Emotional babies annoy me to no end.  You've done more than enough.  Someone needs to put on her big girl helmet and stop acting like a five year old who wasn't asked to play four square. 

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    "Whatever East. You're just mad I RSVP'd "lame" to your pre-wedding sleepover."
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie
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    edited August 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_mans-wife-again-long-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:56075e51-8bf0-4add-9ea6-344f26543c20Post:945f954e-8baf-47c9-ab92-0896d580be01">Re: Best Man's wife is at it AGAIN (long vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Emotional babies annoy me to no end.  You've done more than enough.  Someone needs to put on her big girl helmet and stop acting like a five year old who wasn't asked to play four square. 
    Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

    Seriously.  I asked Dan if I should have worded the invitations differently.
    "You are invited to a bridal shower in honor of 526SadieSadie because she REALLY REALLY VERY TRULY LIKES YOU"
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  • Lisa8888Lisa8888
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    Your mother and FMIL shouldn't be throwing you a shower.

    This whole thing sounds so childish. This woman initially tried in good faith to do some nice things for you. That was very nice of her. I don't think your BMs should have just shunned her because she wasn't a BM. This stepping on their toes is childish. And after all this, your BMs aren't throwing you a shower. Your mother and FMIL are.

    Her feelings have obviously been hurt. I don't believe in special handling of people with emotional problems but you should really consider if you were rude to her.
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  • FutureMrsFraserFutureMrsFraser
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    *in a whiney tone* But Sadie, she just really wants someone to like her!

    I think you've done enough. Sometimes people just think others should go above and beyond to show them they are welcome. I don't entertain those types of people, I just stop talking to them. That's not really an option in your case though.

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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie
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    I would think that in the four or so years that "Ashley" has known known me, she'd know that I'm not exactly shy about letting people know how I feel about them. 
    There's a girl who Ashley and her husband are friendly with that was my cousin's mistress on and off for a long time.  I hate this girl.  I seethe when I hear her name.  When we're at the same party, I make an effort to be rude to her and if she walks into a room, I exit.  I didn't care at first, my cousin being a shitty husband doesn't have any bearing on my life, (although his wife is awesome and I think he's a scumbag for cheating) but then she cornered me one night and proceeded to go into detail about their relationship.  I'm talking LOTS of detail.  She's the kind of person that once she starts talking, you basically have to hit her in the face with a golf club to get her to stop (that and she's a coke head, so good luck getting her to slow down).  After that night, I made it perfectly clear that I despise this chick's existence.
    After seeing how I deal with the whore, I would hope that "Ashley" can see the difference in how I am with her, a person who I like.  In my message this morning, I also apologized for whatever it is that I did to give her the impression that I didn't like her.  Now I'm done.  The ball is in her court.

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  • goheels05goheels05
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    Gah what a brat. 
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  • kpwedkkkpwedkk member
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    You smothered her with kindness, compassion, and the utmost patience.  The ball is with her now, if she doesn't give you an answer, or throws a tantrum, it's not like it's gum in your hair.  She will reflect badly.  Move on, and enjoy your shower :)

    "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie
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    Yep.  ;)
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  • jennylove810jennylove810 member
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    Dude I wouldn't have even called her up to reinforce that you do, in fact, like her.  I'm sure you have many more important things than to soothe some chick's ego.  She'll get over it and life will go on, ya know?
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie
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    I know Jenny. honestly, if my job didn't suck so much and I actually had things to do this morning, I wouldn't have had time to call her and I probably wouldn't have even given it a thought.  Besides that, our Best Man is a fantastic guy, and I didn't want him to start believing her BS.  He and I have a great relationship and I didn't want this whiny baby to spoil it with her attention grabbing shenanigans.

    That sounded mean.  She's a nice girl, but she annoys me sometimes.  Stuff like this coming from anyone would annoy me.
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  • jennylove810jennylove810 member
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    I hear ya.

    So is your shower this weekend?
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