89 days to go and NOW you want to make changes!!!!

Re: 89 days to go and NOW you want to make changes!!!!

• AshnRobo

  

  June 2012

  I would wait for the RSVPs to come in. There shouldn't be a maybe line on your RSVPs so they will have to make up their minds. If they say yes, you have to assume they are coming.

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• mtnbrooke7 member

  

  June 2012

  I'd let them know the RSVP date, and put it on them to decide by then!  That's pretty rude to expect you to hold their seats "just in case" they decide to show up. 
  btw, my ring bearer is about 11 I think!  haha

  

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• BMcLeodTeam member

  

  June 2012

  Ya, wait for the RSVPs. For budgetting reasons count on them being there up until you receive an RSVP saying one way or the other.

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• volleygurl0306 member

  

  June 2012

  Agree with PP.  Give them the RSVP date to decide.  If no response comes in on time, have your FI call them (his family).  If they still aren't sure, say we need a definitive answer by tomorrow because our caterer needs it (even if they don't, whatever), if not we'll just have to mark you down as a no.  We have a lot of OOT guests and I feel like if you have to book a flight there is no wishy-washy answer.  Do you have a flight booked?  no?  okay then you probably aren't coming so that's a no.

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• rbwashington2012 member

  

  June 2012

  I finally got some answers. The grandson will not be coming because he is still in school and he doesn't want to miss any of his sporting events or school to come to a wedding of someone he doesn't know. The cousin in question is for sure coming. Her two daughters are now the two we have no clue about. So we are going to redo her RSVP card tonight to reflect the new changes.
  
  Like I told FI, I don't want to sound mean or rude at all. I really would love them to come if they can, but we don't want you breaking the bank just to come here for one day. The fact we are being able to do any of this is humbling to us both.
  
  You ladies are the best time and time again

  

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• CowgirlK39 member

  

  June 2012

  I just wanna add that I think its smart of you to have slightly older RB's in mind. The wedding i was at this weekend had a little boy (the groom's nephew) who must have been around 3-4 years old. His father was the best man and had to hold him still during the whole ceremony. He was easily distracted and often was waving back at his mom and other people. But when the priest asked him for the rings, he shrugged his shoulders and said "They are on the pillow!" It was pretty cute but I think sometimes having a child who is slightly older and able to stand still would be more beneficial.
  
  My brother is very nervous about his wedding because his FI's cousin in the RB and is a holy terror who will probably end up destroying the place.

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• mamameech

  

  June 2012

  To be fair, I'd give them until the RSVP date and go from there. I've had a few comments from family that irritate me too and they prob won't come but I'm not counting them out just yet (although I'd love to LOL).
  
  I've said it before, but I think people forget what it's like to plan a wedding and how important those details, like the RSVP, can be to the bride and groom. I used to plan large events and people just don't realize the value of an RSVP... until they have to plan something themselves :P

  

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• rbwashington2012 member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_89-days-to-go-and-now-you-want-to-make-changes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:e33bb233-84ed-4f30-9e38-167f7de1cda2Post:cd6c5f43-69c3-44b4-97a8-7f45bb1f571b">Re: 89 days to go and NOW you want to make changes!!!!</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>I just wanna add that I think its smart of you to have slightly older RB's in mind.</strong> The wedding i was at this weekend had a little boy (the groom's nephew) who must have been around 3-4 years old. His father was the best man and had to hold him still during the whole ceremony. He was easily distracted and often was waving back at his mom and other people. But when the priest asked him for the rings, he shrugged his shoulders and said "They are on the pillow!" It was pretty cute but I think sometimes having a child who is slightly older and able to stand still would be more beneficial. My brother is very nervous about his wedding because his FI's cousin in the RB and is a holy terror who will probably end up destroying the place.
  Posted by CowgirlK39[/QUOTE]
  
  Thank you for understanding this! I remember having to be the one to wrangler a set of triplets around 3-4 years old as their mother was getting married. The little girl was awesome, it was the two little boys that I had to chase down a few times down the aisle during the ceremony because they couldn't be still. Little kids are cute in those roles but if the ceremony is around their nap or bed time, you have to consider those factors. The bride and myself regret still to this day giving them a dangerous large amount of sugar to keep them awake so after dinner was serve they would knock out for the night.
  
  So an older RB is awesome in my book. Both of my best friends kids (10 yr old girl and 9 yr old boy) have little duties at the wedding since they are the youngest at the wedding and the little girl is actually the only little girl to be in attendance and we wanted them to feel extra special. Total number of kids attending is only 5 (two 15 yr olds, one 11 yr old, one 10 yr old and one 9 yr old)
  
  We love all our friends and family and wish they all could come but the time of the wedding when the engagement happen knocked out a TON of them with smaller children (under the age of 9) because its little league or bad time etc etc so we didn't have to do the "no kids allowed" rule.

  

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