No Favor at all

i2012do · March 2011

SO I know that we had this whole thread about donations as favors and I had mentioned that I would rather get NO favor than a stupid trinket I throw away.

so what's everyone's thoughts on no favor at all?

Honestly, I'd rather put the $300 in favors towards upgrading our bar- or to the wedding cake or something of the sorts....

I was planning on doing self-made water bottles (btw 24 cases at CVS right now for 1.99)... and then possibly doing like flip flops on teh dance floor. and some italian cookies on the tables along with dessert-- I'm thinking this is plenty right?

Because the woman will liekly take the flip flops- and then the men don't care about a favor.

Thoughts?!

TaraMcGinn · March 2011

We're leaning towards no favors at all, too... We're like you, and would rather see a bride and groom save their money and put it towards something more significant.
I don't recall a single favor that I've actually hung onto from the years and years of weddings that I have attended...

Nicole F. · March 2011

I agree, favors always tend to be cheesy. I would rather put the money towards something else.

MaddieBride11 · March 2011

To us, a favor is just a small token of apperciation for our guests carving the time out of their lives to celebrate with us. For us, they are a must.

We're thinking of doing somehting along the lines of a cookie buffet (an upgrade to the candy buffet). Edible favors are always apperciated and not silly trinkets that get tossed. Best of both worlds.

kathanddave · March 2011

I had the same feeling when I got married this last August. No way was I doing favors, I attended a wedding in July where the favors were favors I would have received at an expo....however, I thought what would the girls really like? I ended up giving all the girls pashmina's and it was a huge hit. I hear from people who weren't invited how all the girls were raving about their pashmina's. I also go out at night and bump into guest who are wearing the pashmina's...it is a nice token and I continuously hear how they wear their pash and think of me....just a thought.

RoyalOrient · March 2011

I don't think we are doing favors either. I can't find anything I like that isn't tacky, cheesy or something a guest has already received in the past. I've toyed with the idea of giving edible favors BUT I am already having a dessert buffet so that would just be over kill.

This doesn't mean I don't appreciate my guests. I am having an open bar, a dessert buffet, and so much food for cocktail and our reception, it's ridiculous! I am also providing transportation. My little ones will get hand made twirlable pinwheels. I don't think my guests will miss the favors, they'll leave with fond memories.

Sarah MD · March 2011

I dunno. I view favors as a "thanks for coming". And manning the door to say good-bye to everyone just isn't an option when there's a perfectly good DJ to dance to. I've never been wowed by any favor I've gotten, but would still think the lack of acknowledgement (i.e. favor) would be rude. What if you put up a sign on the bar, or desert table or wherever saying "In lieu of favors, we'e decided to cover your bar tab/upgrade your sugar high/whatever is special that's for all or most people to enjoy." I don't think it's the favor that's important as much as the message that it represents. And that's something I don't think you should skip.

RoyalOrient · March 2011

^ I like to think a hand written Thank You card would suffice for the acknowledgement part. And as a guest, I don't attend weddings in hopes of receiving a little gift at the end of the night. I enjoy just being apart of the bride and groom's big day. In fact, I prefer the bride and groom skip the favors unless the favor is unique or edible because most favors are generic and useless. I rather see the investment used in other aspects of the wedding. I also think guests will appreciate the bar upgrade regardless of whether or not there is a sign saying something along the line of, "Hey this is your favor!". Anyone who is going to complain because they didn't get a trinket is probably just being petty or didn't drink enough booze to forget about it.

Jdolce · March 2011

I know I said this in the other thread, but I think going with no favor is better off than a trinket or something like that.

While we're doing the donations, my parents pointed out to me that we're also doing a gelato bar with the cake service and many would probably perceive that as a favor, which never crossed my mind.

As I said in the other thread, we attended a wedding a few years ago where a favor was provided, but we received open bar, transportation to/from the hotel, and tons of food. No one even thought twice about not receiving a favor.

i2012do · March 2011

I was actually just chatting with my mom about the thread and discussing favors and she said sshe actually just read an article about favors ...and how they originated. That it was because people went long distances by carriage and they were given a box of food and a toy to occupy the children on the long ride home. Just an interesting tidbit. She said the article made the same point about the trinkets no one uses. We are considering and edible favor but then i remembered that my mom insists on having Italian cookies served with dessert so thats kind of overkill on the sweets.... I was surprised to see so many people say they wouldn't mind not having the favor. I am just wondering how our older traditional guests would take it... I like the idea of the pashminas in a variety of colors as a pp mentioned.... But I'd imagine that would get pricey fast....?

caityflute · March 2011

*i2012do*

I want to give out flip-flops as favors as well! Have you found them anywhere for cheap? I haven't had any luck so far!

edwina-N · March 2011

We're doing a mini bottle of our family wine for each couple (obviously if people come alone, they'll be getting there own bottle). The bottle is just enough for 2 glasses.

rachy24 · March 2011

We didn't like the idea either. Everything seems so cheap unless you spend a ton of money! So we are doing a donation to alzheimers because my Dad was dagnosed two years ago.

Another idea - a friend of mine did tree saplings (she's very earthy) and the note said plant in honor of the couple
http://www.greenworldproject.net/wedding2.htm

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