I don't care who you get rid of but, I am gonna be in your party!

Re: I don't care who you get rid of but, I am gonna be in your party!

• ReturnOfKuus member

  

  January 2013

  Both of you need to calm the hell down.

  

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• mattycam member

  

  January 2013

  I am sorry that your sister upset you and I would probably be upset too. However, I don't think you should rethink your wedding or the date of your wedding because of your sister. I also don't think she should be in your wedding party only because she is your sister especially if you are not that close to her. 

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• baconsmom member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_i-dont-care-who-you-get-rid-of-but-i-am-gonna-be-in-your-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:dd8ab458-0e7e-43a5-ab94-e8a0c578ad5fPost:1342fe30-22ce-466a-8b06-63c1dc617d4c">I don't care who you get rid of but, I am gonna be in your party!</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have about had it with my sister! We had been working on our relationship trying to repair issues that things about 5 years back and thought we were doing a great job. We respected each other and when we got upset would try talking it out. Apparently there is no normalcy with her. On Christmas day I wanted to show my sister my wedding dress so I pulled her into a bedroom and showed her. She acted all excited then as I was putting the dress up she cornered me. Almost pinning me against the bedroom door demanding that she be in my wedding party. She said she didn't care who I got rid of but, she was going to be part of it because she was my sister. I told her I wasn't sure who was going to be part besides the two bridesmaid that I had already asked. I was kind of appalled the way she went about it but, let it go because she is my sister. A few days ago I got a phone call to tell me that her boyfriend of 2 months was taking a loan out on his 401k to purchases her house so they had a place to live and that their were getting married a week before me.....I am mad! She is my older sister and I feel like she is trying to upstage me in some way. I honestly don't know what to do. I tried talking to her saying that mine has been planned for a year and half and she said that hers is going to be small and she will get married when she can afford it. Our mom had been battling cancer for 5 years and she even played the god forbid something to happen to mom. Which made me feel really guilty. I have no idea what to do now I am rethinking the wedding!
  Posted by CandieR90[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>JIC. </div><div>
  </div><div>Also, what? You both sound like drama queens of the highest order. Enjoy that, I guess. 
  
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• DG1 member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_i-dont-care-who-you-get-rid-of-but-i-am-gonna-be-in-your-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:dd8ab458-0e7e-43a5-ab94-e8a0c578ad5fPost:1342fe30-22ce-466a-8b06-63c1dc617d4c">I don't care who you get rid of but, I am gonna be in your party!</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have about had it with my sister! We had been working on our relationship trying to repair issues that things about 5 years back and thought we were doing a great job. We respected each other and when we got upset would try talking it out. Apparently there is no normalcy with her. On Christmas day I wanted to show my sister my wedding dress so I pulled her into a bedroom and showed her. She acted all excited then as I was putting the dress up she cornered me. Almost pinning me against the bedroom door demanding that she be in my wedding party. She said she didn't care who I got rid of but, she was going to be part of it because she was my sister. I told her I wasn't sure who was going to be part besides the two bridesmaid that I had already asked. I was kind of appalled the way she went about it but, let it go because she is my sister. A few days ago I got a phone call to tell me that her boyfriend of 2 months was taking a loan out on his 401k to purchases her house so they had a place to live and that their were getting married a week before me.....I am mad! She is my older sister and I feel like she is trying to upstage me in some way. I honestly don't know what to do. I tried talking to her saying that mine has been planned for a year and half and she said that hers is going to be small and she will get married when she can afford it. Our mom had been battling cancer for 5 years and she even played the god forbid something to happen to mom. Which made me feel really guilty. I have no idea what to do now I am rethinking the wedding!
  Posted by CandieR90[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>Um, what Kuus said. </div><div>
  </div><div>And listen to yourself. Her boyfriend *of two months*  is *taking a loan against his 401(k)*. I'll bet real money they are broken up long before any weddings happen. And if they do, you can watch smugly while their lives deteriorate before your very eyes. (and then, hopefully, feel badly about your smugness)</div><div>
  </div><div>And FFS. I don't think I would even talk to a person who pinned me against a wall for any reason, never mind asking her to be in my wedding party. </div><div>
  </div><div>Seriously. These people are not winners. Just distance yourself from them as much as you can.
  
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• mcda04 member

  

  January 2013

  Your sister is wrong for demanding to be in your WP but you're wrong for being upset about her date. You each get one day. Let it go and move on.

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• Heffalump member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_i-dont-care-who-you-get-rid-of-but-i-am-gonna-be-in-your-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:dd8ab458-0e7e-43a5-ab94-e8a0c578ad5fPost:1342fe30-22ce-466a-8b06-63c1dc617d4c">I don't care who you get rid of but, I am gonna be in your party!</a>:
  [QUOTE]We had been working on our relationship trying to repair issues that things about 5 years back and thought we were doing a great job. [/QUOTE]
  
  I'd keep working on that.

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