Shower scheduling!

SoSaysTara · March 2012

So, my FMIL has mentioned to me on multiple occasions that she intends to throw me a shower. I am SUPER appreciative of this. She's an awesome lady and I think it's great.

Recently, my aunt decided she also wanted to host a shower--threw it out there for them to do it together, but FMIL didn't like this idea, so they are EACH throwing one. No big deal, my family lives in one city and his in another 2.5 hours away. So they decided they'd each do their own. My aunt picked a date for this one (May 26). FMIL said she'd rather do hers "way closer to the wedding" than that (wedding=June 30).

Our social calendar is QUICKLY filling up with obligations between May 26 and June 30. Right now, there are only 3 weekend days that FI and I would be free between those two.

DILEMMA: Do I mention this to FMIL now so she can go ahead and pick a date that would work or do I just let it go and hope it works out?

I don't want to be rude and come off as if I want her to hurry up the planning.. I just want the timing to all work together!

Rethany · March 2012

I would casually bring it up in conversation that you wondered if she has put anymore thought into when she wants to have the shower. Maybe it will start a conversation or get her thinking. Perhaps she'll even say "What works best for you?" and then you can go from there.

I would say something, but I'm a planner and like to get the ball going.

Megbo2012 · March 2012

I would definitely suggest some dates that would be optimal for you, I think that's generally what happens. I was flat out asked what worked for me because my weekends are so hectic. Better to let her know now than to pick a date that doesn't really work.

Skittles612 · March 2012

I would think that she would ask you what dates work best for you in advance. But since your calendar is filling quickly I would definately mention it to her. She will probably be appreciative that you gave her some notice instead of her finding out there is no time to do it.

sweetcanadian1979 · March 2012

I would let her know, it is not rude, a shower only works if the bride can be there.

julbgordo · March 2012

SAY SOMETHING!

Depending on what they want to do for the shower, she should pick a date soon anyway. You won't be the only one in attendance. Other people have obligations as well.

clafond15 · March 2012

Definitely bring it up! My FMIL is also throwing me a shower and my mom is throwing another. I spoke to both of them really early since both FI and I are really busy most spring weekends. FMIL chose April 22 and Mom chose May 26th. There is no overlapp of guests but i figured a longer break in between would be good for me, since 2-3 weekends close together ALL about me would be a bit overwhelming haha. Just be like "hey future momma, I know you mentioned you want to have a shower in June, weekends are starting to get busy for us and i wanted to let you know what I still have free so I can set it aside for you."

MMRoberts11 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I would casually bring it up in conversation that you wondered if she has put anymore thought into when she wants to have the shower. Maybe it will start a conversation or get her thinking. Perhaps she'll even say "What works best for you?" and then you can go from there. I would say something, but I'm a planner and like to get the ball going.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]

This. I'd definitely bring it up and let her know what works date wise.

Elizabeth80 · March 2012

I agree with PP's. I would definitely say something casually about it.

I definitely understand how you feel. We had our first free night in forever this past Friday. Or so we thought. Thursday night we were invited to dinner with a family who mentors us. Great night but we literally were busy from sun up Saturday til almost 11pm Sunday night.

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