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Am I Overreacting?

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I just moved from Boston to Washington state where my fiance is from.  We became engaged in December of 2009 and announced our wedding date of 9/3/2011 shortly after.  My fiance's sister was just engaged this past weekend and has announced that her wedding will be approximately 2 months before ours.  I am afraid because our wedding will be taking place in Boston and now with his sisters wedding just before ours, that his side of the family may not attend considering they are all from the midwest and west coast.  I feel like this places a financial burden on them and don't quite understand why she would set a date so close to ours.  I am a very laid back person and far from the jealous type.  I don't plan on bringing up my feelings, not even to my fiance, but I just can't shake this uneasy feeling.  I don't know if I am just worrying too much or if there is anyone that would feel the same way if they were in my situation??

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Re: Am I Overreacting?

  • Zippy88kZippy88k member
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    edited December 2011
    I understand the stress you're probably feeling, but it's out of your hands. Unless his sister has a history of making everything about her, she probably planned her wedding for a time that was good for her. She may have even taken your date into consideration and planned it as far away as possible. You should know from your own experience that choosing a date is difficult, and it has to work for a variety of people, but mostly the bride and groom. Maybe she likes summer weddings, maybe she wants to get married then for personal reasons, and maybe she didn't want as long of an engagement as you have had. 
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  • Rankin85Rankin85
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't worry. I'm getting married in Toronto a month after my cousin is getting married in BC. The people who would go would go either way. Yeah - they may give you less in a gift - or wear the same outfit - but that's not what the day is about is it?

    No worries! You'll have a beautiful day!
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    It is 2 whole months and it is his family, if your FI isn't concerned, then you certainly shouldn't be.
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    You get one wedding day. Her wedding is 2 months ahead. She also gets one day.

    Also, since you  mentioned she was just engaged this past weekend, I'm guessing she hasn't booked any venues? Until she has her venues booked, she really doesn't have a set date. So that could change anyways.

    His family, I hope, will be more concerned with attending the weddings of their son/grandson/nephew/etc. and his sister than trying to choose the cheaper wedding to attend. You might not have everyone attend, but it's rare for every guest to be able to  make it anyways.
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  • alyssarkaplanalyssarkaplan member
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    edited December 2011

    I had a similar situation.  One of my bridesmaids got engatged 5 months after we did and her wedding date was 3 weeks before ours (this past Saturday).  At first I was upset, but then as I calmed down, I was so happy for them and had a blast at their wedding.  It was actually good as it took my mind off the stress of mine!  You all get one day and she is entitled to hers.  I do not think it should be much of an issue.

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