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Would you mind if we dropped in?

My FI and I have decided that we will be hiring a DJ for our ceremony and reception. I've been browsing online and have narrowed our choices down to three professionals. One DJ who I am very interested in sounds friendly, offered a wide selection of music, and seems almost too good to be true.. but he is 200$ more expensive than our other two choices. My second option is a DJ who seems a little awkward socially, but I admit that I don't know him from Adam and his price seems reasonable. Finally, my third option seems very professional and is the least expensive, but "you get what you pay for". My problem is making the final cut. I would be willing to splurge a little for my DJ if it meant ensuring my reception would be thoroughly enjoyed and NOT stressful for my FI and myself.

To solve this problem, My FI suggested attending the receptions of the clients of each prospective DJ and choosing based on who we believe "sounds best", but that idea horrifies me (Fi thinks I'm overreacting). I can't imagine actually showing up to someone else's wedding just to hear a dj when we are not invited and are not wanted. Do people actually do this? Would you let someone drop in and listen to your DJ?
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Re: Would you mind if we dropped in?

  • edited December 2011
    NO. People DON"T do this and it's incredibly rude.
    That is a personal, emotional event.
  • utegogglesutegoggles member
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    edited December 2011
    Do NOT show up at someone's wedding. I'd be SO upset if someone did this to mine.
  • edited December 2011
    Agreed, very rude to show up uninvited to a wedding. Would you want someone just "dropping in" to check out your DJ or sampling from the buffet to check out your caterer?

    Ask you potential DJs if they have clips of them in action on YouTube or a DVD for you to check out.
  • AZMagnini14AZMagnini14 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_first-dance_would-mind-dropped?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:29Discussion:6c401738-4440-430a-853c-e4d31d0bb5adPost:d16d4e4d-5454-4556-8e60-ac3c75684261">Re: Would you mind if we dropped in?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Agreed, very rude to show up uninvited to a wedding. Would you want someone just "dropping in" to check out your DJ or sampling from the buffet to check out your caterer? Ask you potential DJs if they have clips of them in action on YouTube or a DVD for you to check out.
    Posted by Gingery1[/QUOTE]

    This.
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  • edited December 2011
    I wouldn't care, but I'm a huge the more the merrier kind of person. I would certainly try to keep a very low profile though. I had the same dilema and the DJ offered me references, even from his first weddings. Be upfront with your concerns to all 3 and see if that gets you anywhere. Good Luck!
  • jc04100657jc04100657 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_first-dance_would-mind-dropped?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:29Discussion:6c401738-4440-430a-853c-e4d31d0bb5adPost:8c87aaee-38c2-4f12-a6d7-1f0b88a5d084">Re: Would you mind if we dropped in?</a>:
    [QUOTE]NO. People DON"T do this and it's incredibly rude. That is a personal, emotional event.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    This!
    Can you ask for references? Also check out weddingwire.com for reviews.
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  • cmp1986cmp1986 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP. This is a big no-no!
  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    No no no no no.  DO NOT do this, it's soooo rude.  Also, any DJ that would allow you to drop in to someone else's wedding is extremely unprofessional, so I wouldn't want to hire him anyways. 

    How would you feel if your DJ invited people to your wedding?   There are some rude people out there and their 'drop-in' might including eating your food and drinking your drinks which you paid a lot of money for, all so your DJ can get more business?  Not cool.
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  • edited December 2011
    No, absolutely a bad idea. I would be extremely displeased if some random couple crashed my wedding to check out the DJ. That said, if you could get contact info for a couple and contact them in advance and get their okay, then that would be fine.
  • aseej4aseej4 member
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    edited December 2011
    NO WAY JOSE! If this was the DJs idea DO NOT HIRE! So rude and so unprofessional! If he has experience he should know better!
    Ask for refrences... or if he has a facebook page check that out! See if any one has commented on his work!
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