Honeymoon Registry

ChristinaJoey2012 · April 2012

We are really intrested in a honeymoon registry. We live together and have everything that we need, and everything that we can fit into our small apartment. Since we are paying for most of our wedding ourselves, we probally wont have much left for fun activies on our honeymoon, and we would love to have a good time and create our first memories as husband and wife. I have seen some websites, but I would like to know which ones are the best, or if there is a better way to go about this. I just learned about this idea yesterday and I a m pretty curious. We are having a destination wedding too. Thanks!

GoodLuckBear14 · April 2012

I find it impossible to believe that you can't use a few upgrades. Make a small registry of upgrades and people will take the hint to give cash.

HRs are nothing more than deceiptful cash grabs by the B&G. Guests are under the impression that they are buying you a gift and they're not. You end up witha check from a complany usually for less than what the guest gave.

BTCarolus · April 2012

First, Consider doing a super small registry (25 items or less). It's most likely that people will give you cash if they see that. Honeymoon registries often skim off a percentage of guest's gifts, so you're better off receiving the money directly.

Second, if you want info about honeymoon registries, read the second post on the main registry and gifts page. It is called "Thinking of a Honeymoon Registry?" and has lots of info. Since it's a 'sticky' post it will always be up there at the top.

ChristinaJoey2012 · April 2012

I'm starting to see that they are a bad idea. I could deff use baking upgrades. But since I have an at home bakery, I didn't knowif it was tacky to ask for that.

MyNameIsNot · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-18?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:7d7fb7e3-1e75-41bf-8d21-93a64e587aacPost:3ccf1a1a-2a37-4f26-9aba-735becf3b989">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm starting to see that they are a bad idea. I could deff use baking upgrades. But since I have an at home bakery, I didn't knowif it was tacky to ask for that.
Posted by ChristinaJoey2012[/QUOTE]

<div>Of course not! Anything that you'd use in your home or use together is fair game. It's not just about sheets and dishes anymore. </div><div>
</div><div>Plenty of people register for specialty kitchen stuff, or even out of the box things like tools, camping gear and board games. </div><div>
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</div><div>On the HM registry, look into how it works. The problem that many people have with it is that it isn't really what it appears. The registry tells the guest that they are buying a snorkel trip or a dinner on the beach, but in actuality, the couple gets a check minus a fee paid to the registry. That just doesn't sit well. </div>

aimers1525 · April 2012

Please acknowledge that you cross-posted this on the HM board....

SCogs18 · April 2012

[QUOTE]Please acknowledge that you cross-posted this on the HM board....
Posted by aimers1525[/QUOTE]

Cut her some slack. She only has 17 posts! OP probably doesn't know all the knottie message board rules like XP and stuff.

Ashleigh828 · April 2012

OP, I would forgo the honeymoon registry and just create a small registry of things that will come in handy in the future. Without trying to be rude, you mentioned that you are having a destination wedding... Is this a tropical destination? I only ask because it's my understanding that when you have a destination wedding, the guests attendance is as much as you should expect. Again, I'm not saying this rudely but to ask guests to travel and then ask them to purchase special things for your honeymoon is a little much. Just my opinion...

SparrowSong · April 2012

Just don't register and use the checks you receive as gifts to pay for your snorkling and ziplining excursions. For one thing, those website charge a fee so your guests $50 gift might only be $42 you see. Wouldn't you rather just get the $50 check in the first place? And some people do not like to give cash or virtual gifts, so a small registry of other useful gifts is still practical. Towels, pillows and other replaceable items are always a good idea. However, I wouldn't expect gifts from anyone paying travel/lodging for the destination wedding, and would tell them at much.

samgirl · April 2012

as you probably figured out, HM registries aren't that popular on theknot, but don't let that dissuade you. a lot of people use them, including us, and we've gotten feedback from guests that it was way more fun to pick out something for our trip than to buy us fancy sheets. it just makes sense for this day and age, and it's a lot nicer than registering with the intent to return, so i say, go for it. the one we used was www.depositagift.com and we loved it. superb customer service and really easy to use interface that looks like a regular registry. we loved the overall functionality. you can also register for stuff besides the honeymoon, which we really liked too. you can read reviews from knotties/wed channelers here: http://local.weddingchannel.com/Wedding-Vendors/Deposit-A-Gift-Wedding-Reviews?ProfileId=363585

ChristinaJoey2012 · April 2012

Please acknowledge that you cross-posted this on the HM board.... Wow.

Lol, I am so sorry. I didn't realize I had broken a rule, I was just trying to get as much feed back as possible. Seriously.Didn't know it was that serious.

Also, I label it destination because the location is know as a destination wedding place. However most of us will only have to travel about 45 minutes.

futuremrsbruno · April 2012

I think you should do whatever you and your FI feel works for you and your guests. If you know they wouldn't mind a honeymoon registry, then I say go for it. Not all travel agents are out there trying to take your money. It does take some homework though.

Before we actually set up our registry, we discussed our options with our friends and family. We have a 250 person guest list, which is about 70-30 family over family friends. Our family friends thought a honeymoon registry was a fun idea since for a lot of them, the idea of giving their 20something year old friends and the people they go out with on the weekends a blender or even cash was a little wierd. Our family thought it was a good idea, too since a lot of them have been asking where they can contribute to the wedding (i.e. they wanted to pay for the dj, the cake, etc.) we have a lot of those things taken care of, and because of their insistance in the matter, we went ahead with the registry.

We also did our research when it came to the honeymoon. Our area has a travel agency that does not charge their clients any fees for their services. I did my homework on this and compared their rates to pretty much anyone else I could find, including online travel sites. The agency's price was about 400 less than everyone else, which, upon further research would be about the price of the agent fee for the trip if we went with someone else. They make their money through the resorts they book. For the registry itself, my agent sent me business cards with the agency contact information. Anyone interested in the registry just has to email or call the agent and go from there. My MOH only put the registry cards in the shower invitations, which went out to family and close friends only. The people getting the invitation already knew about the registry so it wasn't a shock to them. We also registered at 3 different stores in our area so whatever people choose to do is fine.

For us, the honeymoon registry worked, no one thought it was rude or tacky, and I've had numerous calls and texts from friends asking for more information on the travel agency so they can look into booking their honeymoon or vacation through them. It was a win-win situation all the way around. I realize that this wouldn't work for everyone, but it worked for us.

karenchiodo · May 2012

I'm personally not doing one because my mom would KILL me. Even though my fiance and I are paying for the wedding, our family has always considered it faux pas to discuss/mention/ask for cash, which is essentially what a honeymoon registry is doing. that said, my family almost always gives money for wedding gifts... so I don't really need to bother with it anyway.

I was tempted to do it because my fiance's family prefers to give gifts... and I'd really prefer the cash to help pay for the wedding and spending money on the honeymoon. But, a gift is a gift and if they really want to contribute cash, they will.

Etiquette on this says if you do a honeymoon registry, you should do a small traditional registry at a big retailer. They say this because there are many old fashioned people and there are older people who don't really like using the internet. Out of consideration for them, it's nice to have a traditional registry.

GoodLuckBear14 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-18?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:7d7fb7e3-1e75-41bf-8d21-93a64e587aacPost:aff85651-752e-45a3-b8d6-bda2c99ddd43">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm personally not doing one because my mom would KILL me. Even though my fiance and I are paying for the wedding, our family has always considered it faux pas to discuss/mention/ask for cash, which is essentially what a honeymoon registry is doing. that said, my family almost always gives money for wedding gifts... so I don't really need to bother with it anyway. I was tempted to do it because my fiance's family prefers to give gifts... and I'd really prefer the cash to help pay for the wedding and spending money on the honeymoon. But, a gift is a gift and if they really want to contribute cash, they will. <strong>Etiquette on this says if you do a honeymoon registry, you should do a small traditional registry at a big retailer. They say this because there are many old fashioned people and there are older people who don't really like using the internet. Out of consideration for them, it's nice to have a traditional registry.
</strong>Posted by karenchiodo[/QUOTE]

Actually, etiquette says you don't do this because it is a cash registry.

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