Invitation Questions

Re: Invitation Questions

• meganhardan member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Question 2:  I am almost positive we will do four weeks.  Our caterer also needs a count 2 weeks prior, and I figure that gives me two weeks to call people who didn't reply.  Also, it will give me a head start on the seating chart.  I've heard that one month is the maximum you should ask for them back.

  
  

  Question 3:  Honestly, I think it depends how it will be received in your circle.  I'm not doing it because I have a website, however, I think that most people in my family wouldn't know any better (with a few exceptions) if we sent registry info, and therefore wouldn't be offended or anything.   So, I think if you think that it will be generally well-received in your circle, go for it.  I also think you're right, it is easier on some people so that they don't have to track the info. down.

  
  

  Sorry I skipped number one, I'm  not feeling creative at the moment, and I actually have the same question as you, so I'm hoping to piggy back on the responses

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• Sharingourlove

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  1) I like what you have
  
  2) We are doing 3 weeks (but not having food other than cake).  When I've put on events (for a living) we would do 6-4 weeks depending on caterer timing.
  
  3) I am doing that as I also don't have a website.  I'm putting it unobtrusively at the bottom under the directions to the church and just saying "We are registered at....".  I'm also titling the insert "Things you may want to know" so it's up to them.  So if you don't think you're group would be insulted I'd go ahead and do it.

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• mgoss228 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_washington-seattle_invitation-questions-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:104Discussion:0f95a4ff-8530-4c0e-a7ad-a43479dbbcc3Post:a2115366-cc64-40c4-b2ce-e6e06048591c">Invitation Questions</a>:
  [QUOTE]A few questions..... I want to say something more fun and creative than "Reception to Follow"......I have found a few things, but just wondering if you guys have any other ideas. I found Dinner and Dancing, or Food and Festivities.....etc. Right now I have it as "Dining, Dancing and More Celebrating to Follow" and will prob keep it that way unless you guys can help me come up with something better.
  <strong><font color="#0000ff">I used "Dinner, Dancing and Drinks immediately following,"  since the reception and ceremony are at the same location.</font></strong>
  
  2nd ?: .......When did you make your RSVP deadline? 6 weeks before? 4 weeks before? Our caterer needs a final count 2 weeks before. I don't know when I should make it.
  <span style="font-weight:bold;"><span style="color:#0000ff;">I made RSVP deadlines at 4 weeks, and our caterer needs 2 weeks notice.  We have a lot of OOT guests, so I thought this would be plenty of time to contact any slackers.</span></span>
  
  Last ?.........this might end up going in weekend confessions. Do you really think it is REALLY that AFWUL (like I'll be ridiculed and disowned for the rest of my life awful) to include registry information on an information card in the invite? Here's the deal. I don't have a wedding website and I have absolutely no time to make one just because I need a place to put registry info. Also, the word of mouth thing just won't work because a lot of our guests are OOT or really don't know any of my wedding party or have their contact info, etc. I kinda think that times have changed and people really don't want to have to do the run around looking for registry information and I think it would be much easy to just have it layed out right there for them. FI thinks that's what we should do and I would like to also....but I everywhere I look people are saying DO NOT do it. I honestly think our guests are easygoing, etc and prob don't know much about "etiquette" anyway not to mention times are changing. That's good for now.
  Posted by kinmir30[/QUOTE]
  <span style="font-weight:bold;"><span style="color:#0000ff;">In your case, I would put registry info in the invite on the info card. 
  
  My family usually does this (my cousin who got married in Feb did it for hers, she also did not have a website), but I do side-eye it, mainly due to being on TK and seeing how it could be viewed as gift-grabby.  Imo, registry info should only be put on the Shower invite that someone other than the Bride or MOB sends out..... but that is my silly wedding "tradition/etiquette."  Do what is right/appropriate for you and your guests, and don't let etiquette bizzznatches tell you what you HAVE to do.  </span></span><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

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• Frogger5 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  1) We put "reception immediately following"
  
  2) 6 weeks before
  
  3) I think there's something OK about putting the registry info anywhere but on the actual invite. A business card-sized enclosure card or a line on the "info" card . . . either to a website which has the info or just a URL.
  
  Everyone's calling and emailing now anyway, though - the wedding isn't until August! I didn't count on everyone freaking out and asking about hotel rooms, etc., this far in advance. Why did I bother with the hotel card? Everyone's going to know by the time I send out the invites anyway.

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• emyinpink

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  1) we're putting formal reception to follow. I also like "followed by dinner, drinks, and dancing!"

  
  

  2) we're going to do 4 weeks.

  
  

  3) really, I just wouldn't. it's only happened once on an invitation we got, and I totally side-eyed it. and I've known people who wouldn't give gifts off of the registry if it was included. ours is on our website, which wouldn't help, but I usually just check the known registry sites for people anyways. if yours is one of the more common ones (BB&B, Macy's, Crate and Barrel, Target, William Sonoma, etc.) I really wouldn't worry about it.

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