Ever have one of those blah days? (general rant with a little TMI)

CFM102012 · August 2012

My first dress fitting is tomorrow and I hope I don't feel tomorrow how I feel today. I'm not worried about the fit itself. While I know I've gained back some weight that I had lost I'm still not as big as when I first got the dress, just bigger than the last time I tried it on. The dress should still fit. My biggest worry is how my bust is going to look in the dress. I have a love/hate relationship with my bust. Most days I'm okay with them but now I'm worried that they're all that people will focus on.

When I first got my dress my sister said that it made my waist look tiny and my boobs look really big. At the time I was more conscious of my waist line so that didn't bother me then. I was talking to my sister last night and she said that some of her friends still talk about me from her wedding in May. All they remember is how big my boobs were. Not the very heartfelt speech I gave or that I just generally looked pretty in the BM dress. They remember the boobs.

To add to the body issues, I'm also hormonal thanks to Mother Nature showing up after taking a month off. It was probably stress induced so I wasn't going to worry unless I missed August too, tho I wouldn't have been worried about a pregnancy since we've been abstaining for quite a while now. Now that she's shown up again I'm feeling very gross and unclean even though I *just* took a shower. I hate being a girl sometimes.

Thanks for letting me rant girls

mrshall1027 · August 2012

I can feel you on the boob thing. I'm 5'0" with 34EE (probably bigger, but haven't gotten properly measured). It was a big thing to deal with when trying to find my dress. I'm actually about to call a plastic surgeon to start the process of getting a reduction because I am starting to get a lot of back pain.

Hopefully when you go in tomorrow, you'll feel a little better then you do today. I know I always feel like complete crap when that time of the month comes around. I'm on it right now too and my rehearsal dinner dress came in, and although I was really reluctant to try it on because I just "knew" I'd look horrible, I was pleasantly surprised and it looked really nice. So, maybe you'll have the same reaction as me tomorrow. Go in with a positive attitude and you'll feel much better about it!

As for your chest, you probably won't be able to hide them if you are anything like me. It's always the first thing that people notice, even if I am wearing a huge t-shirt. You just gotta embrace it and try to feel as confident as possible, even though it can be really hard. You're going to look beautiful no matter what. The bonus, as you mentioned, to having big boobs is that your waist will always look smaller! lol

Ividian · August 2012

I'm with your girls on the 'time of the month' gross feeling. I've got my first dress appointment on Friday, and I'm not nearly as excited as I want to be because I'm worried about being bloated. As far as boobs go, I've got the opposite problem, I'm fairly flat chested so I never fill out what's there. I'm curious to see what the seamstress does with my bust.

goatlady12 · August 2012

I feel you on the boob thing. It's hard to buy sexy clothing sometimes because it makes me feel trashy. Too much boob is a really hard thing to buy clothes for.

[Deleted User] · August 2012

I feel your pain! 5'0" with 34DD's. When people say "your boobs are huge!" I think they mean it as a compliment, but it's very rude in my opinion. What if I said "wow you have a huge ass!"? I doubt they'd feel too good about it.

Anyhow, I had my first fitting when it was that time of the month and I couldn't get it to zip--BUT I went back a week later and it was fine. Total hormonal thing. Just try not to let it get you down because you will be gorgeous on your wedding day no matter what!!

I have the same love/hate relationship, but I also know that if I was very small chested I would kill for bigger ones. It's all about perspective! Hope that helped ; )

mrshall1027 · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_ever-have-one-of-those-blah-days-general-rant-with-a-little-tmi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:4f08849c-9814-4054-b60c-600daf228f1ePost:9048a819-1303-4e87-a4c4-05bb551304a3">Re: Ever have one of those blah days? (general rant with a little TMI)</a>:
[QUOTE]What if I said "wow you have a huge ass!"? I doubt they'd feel too good about it.
Posted by frank139@msu.edu[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Hahahaha! I should totally do this the next time someone says I have huge boobs!

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CFM102012 · August 2012

Thanks ladies you really helped. I think I have just so much emotionally going on that I need a cathartic cry to release everything. I don't know if I posted it anywhere here on TK at all but a few days ago I had a customer at work essentially imply that my clock was ticking on having kids. He had asked about if I was full or part time and I responded that I worked part time but they gave me as many hours as they could. He replied that I didn't need to be full time unless I had kids but I was too young for that. I told him that I'l be 32 in a couple weeks (on the 11th) and he said "Well, you need to get on that then". It's all just weighing on me now and compounding. I know in my heart I'm still young and thankfully I look younger than I am but a lot of my friends are having kids. I generally feel pretty. It doesn't usually make it up to beautiful but at least feeling pretty is good.

I took another look at a picture of me in my dress before I left for work today.

I love my dress and the only thing I plan on changing is to add some cap sleeves. Like I said in my OP, I've gained a little weight back since this pic was taken. To compare here is a pic of me in the BM dress from Sister's wedding

I'm far left in the green. My boobs do look absolutely huge in that dress, and that's after cutting out the padding that it came with, lol.

goatlady12 · August 2012

Your gown looks like it compliments/contains your boobs. I wouldn't worry about it, you look great in it!

[Deleted User] · August 2012

You look great in your dress!!!

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