Hey all - got a minute for a story?
My two cousins are my BM/MOH's - we looked at dresses for them back in September and had just sort of looked at dresses online since then, but come January nobody had said definitively which they liked. There was one that we thought was pretty killer but it was too expensive. (All were from WH/BM.) The other we liked was reasonable - cousin A had a baby last year so her body is still changing and she wasn't sure she really felt good in it, but she said it was fine and she'd be fine wearing it. Cousin E happened to be taking a trip to Antarctica (yes, really!) for two weeks in the middle of January so I e-mailed them and asked if we could get the dresses taken care of before she left. Both got the dresses and we thought it was a done deal.
THEN - cousin A came into town to go to IKEA and afterward we went over to WH/BM to look at some shoes we'd seen. They were half-price, yay! Guess what else was half-price? That killer dress from before. And the only one left was A's size. She tried it on at my request and it looked great on her, and she felt better in it. We debated about whether to change dresses after they'd just gotten the other one, and I told her I would rather her be comfortable and feel good about herself than have them match, so E could keep the other dress if we couldn't find this one in her size and they'd look fine together.
A e-mails E's BF to ask him to look for her dress size so we could work on this plan. He e-mails E about this and E e-mails me, pissed that we're changing dresses after she'd left. Then I thought, oh sh**, I didn't think she'd be mad about it, but I can understand why. I've e-mailed her explaining that it wasn't something we could wait to do till she came back IF we were going to go with the other dress, she didn't have to change dresses if she didn't want to, etc. Since then cousin A has lost weight and the original dress actually looks better on her now, so she's taken the other one back. I e-mailed E and told her that, too, and apologised I don't know how many times. I feel terrible about this.
I knew she wouldn't be able to get back to me while she was gone, but she's been back home since at least Wednesday, maybe earlier, and I still haven't heard from her. I'm trying to give her space and decide what she thinks about everything, but omg I didn't think she'd be this mad to not talk to me. What do I do? Should I call her? What if she really is still mad and she starts yelling at me about this and doesn't want to be a BM/MOH over this?
