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September 2012 Weddings
Starfish0116
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Okay...need some feedback on this.
So FI told me the other day that his mother wants to have a "rememberance table". Basically a table decorated with photos of loved ones who have passed. Meanwhile, I'm thinking, really? I don't know, I just think it's a "downer" on the day. I miss my grandparents as much as the next person but I don't feel the need to put their picture up at the reception. Can't we just put a nice poem on the wedding program with their names?
Both my great grandparents, and a grandfather have passed. FI has a TON of deceased relatives. I figure, where do we draw the line? I don't want a table with 20+ pictures of deceased relatives.
I certainly don't want to sound cold hearted. I don't know, I've just NEVER seen anything like this at a wedding.
Thoughts? Should I just give in and let them do it? FWIW, I've let FI have most of the wedding decisions. I've really only gone to bat for a few things.
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Re: Okay...need some feedback on this.
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[QUOTE]Oh, and she had tags on some of them with how long they had been together. For example, my grandparents were married for 60 years before my poppop passed.
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<div>I like that idea, but very few of our relatives are still married...lol. Pretty much everyone is divorced/remarried. </div><div>
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[QUOTE]We might have a few family photos on our guestbook table. A lot of FI's family has passed (one aunt to cancer that he was close to and he only has one surviving grandmother) and my great aunt died last year that I was close to. We are planning on doing family photos with living and eceased just as a way of recognizing family and our ancestors. Do you think something like that would work?
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<div>Good suggestion. This could work. I was really trying to figure out where we'd put it. We're already having a large (300+ people) wedding. That's A LOT of tables, plus buffet tables and a cake table, etc.</div>
Ours looks like this:
http://www.annsbridalbargains.com/Plan-Your-Wedding-Ceremony/Wedding-Memorial-Candles-Vases--Frames/2656-AWMC888-Memory-Glass-Cylinder.pro
(but I think I'm going to fill it with water and a floating candle)
We are considering having pictures of all our grandparents on our guest book table (some of them are still living and none of them ever divorced) to represent true love and happiness, not loss. We'd include our parents wedding photos, but my parents eloped to Hawaii and don't have photos from their wedding and his parents are divorced.
For our "remembrance" part of the wedding we are doing one of two things. Invite everyone out on the patio to light sparklers in remembrance of the ones who can't be here today or paper lanterns. It's a fun and loving way to do it I think.
[QUOTE]Okay, I've got a better idea cause yeah, it seems kinda depressing the way your FMIL put it. On four weddings (sorry! can't help it!), one bride had a table with wedding photos of relatives that were specal in her life. Kind of a "here's what a great marriage looked like" table. It had relatives that were both alive and healthy and ones that had passed. Maybe you could do that? And that way you could mix in the wedding photos of relatives that have passed.
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</div><div>This! We are also doing this. Most of the people in the pictures (our parents and all 4 sets of grandparents) are still alive, but I figured its a good way to have my grandparents there (3 out of 4 are deceased, my other grandmother is too sick to attend our wedding) without it being somber. Its more of a celebration of their love.</div>
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In our case, we only have one: my Poppy. He passed in 2008 and was extremely close to me (I would have wanted him and my father both escorting me if he were still here). In addition to mentioning him in the program, I'm wrapping his watch around my bouquet (Alice In Wonderland theme works well for this!) and also creating a little memorial piece for display: florals in an old Twinings tea tin. On theme, but he also loved their tea, and it's the only one of its kind. Family and close friends will know exactly why it's there, but to other guests, it will just be a nice display on the guest book table.
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